I’m expecting my first child in September and I’m terrified of how work will be like with the distractions of a newborn being the primary food source. I am considering if I should prepare a pitch to request six months part time to ease back into the workplace. Has anyone found success in going this route? If not how did you deal?

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I went remote for 5 months. Is that an option for you? Don't let people tell you to just deal with it. You know your limits, you know what you are comfortable with and what you can afford. Make the right choice for you.

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Luckily my role is remote. I chose it be design knowing we were thinking about starting a family

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What EY said. Just deal with it. You're not the first nor last working professional to have a child. It'll be better to ask if you can work remotely for a couple of months instead of asking to work part-time.

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Yeah I have no idea what is in store once they build awareness. Good on you for keeping a good relationship with your little one despite the odds

My wife has been through this four times. Do whatever you can to keep yourself in the workplace. Mothers are at a disadvantage because of their need to care for a newborn. Take advantage of FMLA to protect your job.

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I am planning on it! Wow, four times!!

Just deal with it, you'll be tired but you'll be fine. Talk to your SO, there are two of you in a relationship, divide up the work. Set boundaries at work if you haven't already.

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Thanks for chiming in. I have worked on setting boundaries.. I don’t answer messages after hours and have had to uncomfortably set a boundary rejecting meetings before 8am. Yes I do have a partner we can divide work between

Congratulations, and the fear is completely normal. This is a big life change. My best advice is to have a tentative plan of how it’s going to work and be adaptable if it needs to change. I had 4 months' leave and then went back full-time. Part-time can still be a lot, but it’s very much your situation.

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Thank you! Your plan is the tentative plan just by design I believe my leave is for four months

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Sounds like you're already remote and planning on keeping baby at home with you? Assuming you get 3-6 months leave, you have a good amount of time to get adjusted and find a schedule that suits you and baby.

Yeah that is the way

it’s gonna be tough, i wish you the best. you might ask to extend your leave, or the part time thing if your company allows it. maybe they might be ok with wfh.

Thank you! Some are saying to suck it up but I’d rather not hate life

Are you not getting maternity leave? After that, like many new moms, you can have a nanny come to you or drop off to home daycare.

I am, it’s true I can so either one of those things

Congrats! You'll get used to the sleepless nights. You will probably want to take a step back in your career in order to care for your little one. If you have an understanding company, maybe you can get the part-time workstream but that is rare in my experience. Wish you the best and remember who is your number one priority now.

Thank you so much. I do want to take a step back but I’m not sure how to get there with my managers

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