I'm in Ewa Beach, Hawaii. This is my third time trying to get sober again. Already been through 2 treatment programs and meetings trigger me! Mental health has been in free fall mode and I can't escape this funk. I just want to get back to working. I'm at risk of becoming homeless for the fourth time in my life. I pride my independence, but chances of acquiring assistance have been shattered. Feeling truly broken.

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Pride and independence very well may be at the root of the issue rather than something to work towards.

I am a very independent, strong, and successful person by most metrics, yet the more I concede to my inner most self that I can't do this alone and the more I seek out help and guidance, the farther I get from my last drink.

My only suggestion is to really honestly dig into why meetings trigger you. My experience tells me it's probably something within you that needs to be addressed rather than the meetings or attendees.

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Agree here. Could also be the meetings you tried - check out other ones.

I'm on my fourth try, but the first three failures I tried to do it without meetings or following the program. If I don't work my program I realize I will have nothing (including work). I have to do this so that I can have my life back. And now a couple years into it, I do, and I found serenity. I'd never want to go back to the depressive episodes I used to have. Chapter four might help you with your need to be independent.

For me, I just had to surrender. I can’t figure out or beat this disease, and getting sober required me to do a lot of things that I didn’t understand at first, and a bunch of things I didn’t like. It takes time, but thing can and do get better.

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