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How is the work life balance in Citi?
Here is the scenario: Have 2 offers from IT MNCs and 1 from Citi. Citi's offer is the highest. Almost 5 lakhs diff in the fixed component. Although money is important, but I am also seeking a little balance with life. I was previously in ZS Associates and to be frank, life was hell. I am not looking to relive that phase again.
What are the daily actual working hours?
Shall I join Citi or let go it for a lower package offer?
Seeking honest advice here.
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I don't work on weekends. There are (rare) exceptions for truly urgent things, like when COVID first hit and I had to work on respirators.
I no longer care that others do and get ahead. That's their life, and it's not the one I want. If it means I don't get ahead as much, then I accept that but I also went client side partially because of that. Here there are many others with young kids.
I get ahead by being smart, effective, and highly skilled - and by working somewhere that rewards people for those things and not just for creating the illusion of constant availability. I only work on weekends if a) something is truly urgent, or b) I’ve taken some unplanned time off during the week and feel like I need to catch up. And when I do work on the weekend, I try not to make it obvious to my team because I think it sends a subtle message about what’s expected (which is not something I want to perpetuate).
If people around me want to work performatively at weird hours in the hopes of getting ahead… seems sort of dumb but I guess it’s none of my business. I’m pretty happy with what I’m achieving without having to do that.
I’ve made it clear with my team that unless it’s an emergency/on call for a shoot, I will respond on Monday. They’ve respected my time and will only text as needed.
I do all the others above said. And I once had someone younger on my team leave and go elsewhere where she was expected to work crazy hours. She eventually came back and said she missed working for a working mom who had her priorities straight.
I am unapologetically a mother. And a very competent employee. I work very hard not to drop the ball and build trust quickly. I do work in the evenings when I have to. But the weekends are pretty unscathed, with the exception of planned projects.
As a recently-ish new mom, I get your concern. I was also the type to work all hours, all weekends, all holidays in order to please my colleagues.
To put it plainly, having my child put everything in sharp focus. Time is precious.
So I did the work to find a new team who values me - not how many hours I work. And I’ve had to do even more/harder work in retraining my habits.
If I have to work on the weekends, it’s at bedtime for only 1-2 hours. If I can’t fit my work during my week, I talk to my boss about my workload.
Congrats on this messy, beautiful next phase of life - it’s so, so worth it!