In my last company a senior executive blatantly called me an American born confused desi (ABCD) and now I have PTSD working with white male executives

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Fwiw, I can assure you that 99.9% of white people have never even heard those words together.

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I’m an ABWD (American Born White Dude) and have never heard of ABCD, but triggering PTSD from ABCD seems OTT (Over The Top) and LTBOAA (Looking To Be Offended At Anything)

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That was completely inappropriate of that person to make the comment, but PTSD, really? Not everyone you meet is a racist just because this happened to you.

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That happened. 🙄

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I’m not.

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HAHAHAHA. PTSD? If this is your biggest complaint with life you’re doing pretty good. I had someone tell me I smelled like milk because I’m white. This was in a meeting. No one gave a shit nor did I. Grow up and get some resiliency. You’re being a baby and insulting people with actual PTSD.

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This is such a sad post. Can’t believe people get offended by this and I’m brown

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Are you an American born desi?

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Enough to trigger PTSD though?

Profiling people is inherently wrong because it labels you as an “other”. It can be subtle such as questioning why you have a certain name (I.e. why are named Xx?) or blatant like your case—but both make you feel questioned and unwelcome.

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Did a new slur just drop or has this been around?

It's been around for 20 years

So I did a google search of the term and found this article https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/American-Born_Confused_Desi

I have a very bard time seeing this used by a white guy... Could it be be that he was actually born to asians and just looks white? Are you certain he meant "ABCD" in the context you believe he did? I've literally never heard of this term until today.

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