The stress of this job ruined my life.
The stress has lead to an eating disorder that I can’t get control of. I’ve lost 25 pounds since starting at the firm two and a half years ago. I am 20 pounds less than I was in high school... I don’t know how to get control again. Even when the stress lays off I can’t eat more due to being used to being busy for almost 9 months out of the year...

How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

What are the top things you do for better health?

Question for males only:

Have you ever got your testosterone level tested? Have you had testosterone replacement therapy? Experience ?

Feeling really nervous, help! I’ve been using topical hydroquinone 4% since before I found out I was pregnant. Now reading the label I realise that it’s not advised and a category C by the FDA - I’m 6 weeks pregnant and have obviously stopped now but really scared I might have caused serious harm to my baby.

Have any of you used this while pregnant and it turned out fine? Any other insights that can give me some peace of mind? 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Was there a specific point where all this became real for you all? I’m almost 6 weeks and have only had mild symptoms and wondering when it will finally hit for me.

Any performace testers in nagarro.. plz dm

If anyone in DC area is looking for a great therapist.... i cannot recommend mine enough! I have seen several and she’s been detrimental in my getting better: Janet Wilson in Arlington.

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Anyone looking at traveling to Costa Rica? They have a list of states from which they will admit tourists while also requiring a negative covid test, health history, etc. As someone not on the approved list, I am bitter and curious why the population is grouped at a state level when there are massively different rates of infection within each state (not to mention personal responsibility) and you are already required to present a negative test. Any idea how often those lists get updated?

Just how bad would it be to quit without a two week notice? I’ve been bait & switched into a horrible role, overworked to the point of having medical problems, and no amount of diplomatic talks with my manager has improved the day to day. My mental health and my personal relationships have been on a steady decline.

I don’t have another job lined up yet. But I’m danger close to quitting and taking my chances with freelance. Could it be worth it?

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

How do you motivate yourself to get out of bed when you’re having an anxiety attack and just want to curl up under the covers?

Benefits Question: how is the health insurance where you are? How does your employer handle it?

This has become one of the most important things when interviewing for me. My last employer went from having no insurance option to giving us one terrible plan that they contributed 50% towards. My current employer works with Gravie so we get so much per month and can use it towards any plan on the marketplace. Only thing that sucks is the contributions are post-tax so it counts as income.

Has anyone gone through scar removal surgery in NYC or NJ? Is there a surgeon/derm/treatment that you might recommend?

Laser, threading, shaving or waxing? My pain tolerance is low 😅

I get that money is tight. But if you deny all diagnostic tests, please don’t get mad at me when we can’t figure out what’s wrong. Those tests are there for a reason.

Any idea if someone had take covesheild vaccine in India . Can they take boaster Moderna shot here

If two of you 🐠 can connect on here and plan a date within the next few days...I’ll pay! Cutest idea I get in my DMs wins!

Which is the more lucrative and flexible long term career path when comparing .NET development vs salesforce development.

By flexible I mean in terms of moving between positions, companies and technologies.

I've done both and am currently doing salesforce development but don't want to get pigeonholed.

Any facial recommendations in the city?

Recently joined the firm as a project delivery specialist. During recruiting, the team harped on how great my background was and how much a good fit I would be for the firm/project...

Well, I was on an onboarding call and they were talking about staffing and projects. The presenter said to reach out to them if you don’t think your project is a good fit. In his words “you were hired into the firm, not a specific project. We see you here long term... With the exception of PDM model” 😅
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Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

At Thoughtworks, What are the projects that don't provide wlb and are too stressful?
In the data engineering space.

Any recommendations on smart thermostats that you love and enjoy? I would need to replace 3 thermostats in our home so looking for best value. Our electric company will provide them “free” but then charges $10 per month. We plan to be in the same house for many years so doing the upgrade ourself seems to be a no brainer.

Anyone working in Progressive as a CAT field rep? What are your thoughts on this role? Pros, cons, tips?

Do most software engineers go ‘on call’? Starting my new job soon would love to learn the norm!

How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

Hey all, looking to switch from SWE to Cyber Security… Any suggestions or tips on the best way to get my foot in the door?

Anyone hear back with a no from GPS? Were you given concrete answers or something standard?

Does Deloitte and PWC has a dedicated app sec pen-test team? What percent of the time do you travel? Do you guys work from home or need relocation to any place in US?

Hi, currently making 10.5 lakhs fixed as AM ( recently promoted) , have an offer from KPMG for consultant for 15.5 fixed. Should i take demotion from AM to consultant. Also if i resign now , will miss out on 1.3 lakhs rupees bonus which will get in September. Also please tell about DT-CDSG team at KPMG India. TIA

Anyone wants to meet new people in Hyd ? Got bored and have no plans for tomorrow.

Do T2 consulting firms (think Kearney, OW) and MBB hire experienced professionals WITHOUT MBA (I.e., is a prestigious MBA mandatory in the region?). I already have a post-MBA position

Been in the same relationship since i was 17 years old, now I’m 23. I want to go out and live my life the way i want too. Is this bad?

I miss music. Like actual bands with instruments and vocal ability. Feels like the music industry is so hollowed out that multi-member instrumental bands like Fleetwood Mac, The Beatles, and even Metallica are no longer able to take root.

There are a few talented individual singers (Adele) a lot of awful mumble rappers, but no actual bands that will stand the test of time. Before I get called a Boomer, the problems with the music industry for new artists are well documented.

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

Does Chicago have a secret sex society ?

31M here. Met a girl last week, 31F, and we hit it off instantly. We have so much in common and everything feels right, tomorrow will be our 3rd date. She slept over last night, no sex, but we made out all night. I haven’t felt like this for anyone in a while and it feels amazing, but I’m scared to commit. I have this fear of getting hurt or putting in effort only for it not to last.

America is so ugly.

Confession - I’ve lived in New York for 20+ years and have never A) been to the Statue of Liberty or B) the top of the rock

So is the Friday night ritual a pic thread in this bowl?

Did I just finish binging the 2nd season of Indian Matchmaking? Why yes, yes I did.

I bought touch up paint and covered at least 20 spots in my house without knowing that I needed to paint the whole wall to cover the spots 😩 anything that I can do instead of painting the whole damn wall?

I recommend books I've never read to people who ask for book suggestions.

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

Does distance make the heart grow fonder or make it wander?

Brought too much pears from Costco. Trying to pimp them out to my family.

I hate it when I'm shopping for dresses and I see one that's really cute, only to find out it's a romper

👿🎃👻 Halloween started early. I was ghosted, again. 👻🎃👿

This middle schooler told me that smelling nice makes your more eloquent and then sprayed me with something. I don't know what he did but after that I had a weird axe-scent.

Is it illegal to tell someone to get out of your car if your in a national park at night? What if the person made you feel unsafe and you wanted them out of your car, even though the location was a bit dangerous (ex Yellowstone, Smoky Mountains)?