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No, not necessarily. Why you feel you need to track his location might be the red flag. Whatever is underlying that need and your gut is telling you is the actual issue
Rising Star
Girl I do not want to share location with my husband, and we’ve been together for 12 years. There is nothing untoward that I’m trying to hide from him, rather the opposite. Sometimes I’m running errands and picking up things to surprise him and I don’t need him to know that.
Married 36 years and do not share locations. D2 nailed it. I need to stop for donuts incognito. Or meander through Target completely untethered. Privacy and autonomy are also tenets of a great marriage.
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Shared location is a privilege, not an expectation. And some just don’t want to do it. I only share when I’m traveling for my safety. Otherwise, no, he doesn’t need it and neither do I.
God help todays generation, who didn’t grow up without cell phones.
This. So much this. My husband and I have been together for 17 years; neither of us share location with each other. We've never even discussed it as an option; we trust each other, I don't need to know where he is all the time... if I have a question about when he'll be home etc I message him.
Only time I ever share my location is when I'm running alone. If my partner expected me to share my location 24/7, it would be a huge red flag for me. If someone cannot sit comfortably not knowing where I am at any given moment, I'd be worried about codependency at best and control issues at worst.
Seems like points of views vary wildly on this one which is a little interesting.
Do you live together? If yes I would be a little skeptical / annoyed if my bf didn’t want to share location. If you don’t live together then I think it might be too soon to expect to share location.
It seems like such a minor thing to me that adds so much convenience so I don’t see why people have an issue with it.
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PWC2 all that is nuts, smh
Chief
I think it’s only a red flag if his behaviors also suggest he’s hiding something from you, if you suspect cheating, etc. In general, don’t think it’s a red flag. I don’t want to share my location because I enjoy my privacy and independence. Mentally I’d feel like someone’s also keeping track of where I am, like micromanaging me.
I think it depends on a number of factors. How long you’ve been together, why you want to/need to track him, etc.
I’m not saying that every relationship in which the partners share locations is abusive. BUT every abusive relationship involves sharing locations.
He doesn’t want to grant you 24/7 surveillance capabilities. That’s a beige flag at worst.
Rising Star
I think it's a red flag if someone feels they need to share location with their significant other.
I have shared my location with my now ex bf when I was traveling for safety reasons, but we were both fine turning it off when I was home.
For a simple “safety” reason, there is no reason why can’t someone share location with boyfriend/girlfriend or family members. You don’t have to monitor nor share, but “refusal” of sharing is a flag.
I don’t want to share locations with mine. I gotta keep my crazy at bay.. cause I struggle with trust issues from previous relationships.. and I’d be overthinking all the time for every detour lol
Absolutely - unless he works for the Agency, the NSA, or the FBI and he is on a mission and has to have geolocation disabled for OPSEC… and don’t let people gaslight you in this bowl.
My ex boyfriend refused to share his location with me and kept saying that was super weird I wanted it. I did in fact find out later he had cheated on me 🤷♀️
My husband of 15 years was very insistent that we share locations so we did for years. One day, he told me he was going on a “boys ski trip”, left me and went MIA for a week. I looked and his location had been turned off. Turns out he had gone to Canada with his girlfriend/woman he cheated on me with. Just sharing or not sharing locations is hardly a green flag or red flag.
I mean my own husband and kids don’t share location with me. I don’t consider it a red flag. I only share it with them for safety reasons.
I share my location on an as-needed basis. I'm not really worried about him and he's not worried about me - we generally share when we're trying to meet up and gps is the fastest way to communicate it.
I share location with my mom and I would like to share location with my husband but he has a non apple phone and the barrier of figuring it out outweighs the benefit of convenience. I do find really helpful to see where my mom is vs calling her as she can be in yoga or church where she can’t just pick up her phone.
We share locations through the whole family but honestly if I dropped off no one would notice. We only seem to look at it when everyone is at the restaurant waiting for that one person to get there.