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The way I look at it, it’s part of social conditioning for some of us.
I didn’t go to diverse schools nor did I live in a black neighborhood growing up. I was an isolated kid who spent a lot of time with mainstream American media, which is STILL very much white. 😂 That gravitational pull is sometimes just familiarity…
This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing your thoughts <3
Hmm I don’t think it’s a problem honestly.
The way the “community” is it benefits you that you keep an open mind to white men and other ethnicities as well for a better chance of marriage and less dysfunction.
I would never date a short or broke dude so there’s that 🤷🏽♀️
Jokes aside, I’ve never seriously date black men; nor ever plan too. It doesn’t mean that I suffer from self hate - because I don’t. I just have a preference and I’m comfortable with it
I hear you! I think that's where my mind goes too haha
It's your life. Live it how you choose to live it. Why do you use the word "normal"? If you're attracted to your opposite race, there should be nothing wrong or abnormal about that. Nowhere is it written that "we," or anyone else, should only be romantically involved with their own race. Don't live your life by society's made-up rules.
**Correction - if you're attracted to an opposite race....
If a black man posted this it wouldn’t get the same reaction
I would give the same advice. I have met several men of other races that I was attracted to but never entered into a relationship because of the opinions of others. I wish I knew then what I know now… life is too short to care what others think.
If your attraction is coming from a sincere, emotionally healthy place why not?
Zendaya, is that you?
I think it’s abnormal. And wayward. And maybe even deviant depending on the extent to which you fetishize white men. I think any racial preference outside your racial group is reflective of unhealthy social conditioning. I wouldn’t live my life believing that white men, and white men alone, are worthy of my attention and affection. I’d especially be embarrassed about desiring white men exclusively whilst we still live in a white supremacist state. I’m also clear that if you don’t want to be with Black men, that inevitably means you don’t want Black children and I think that’s an interesting decision for Black women to make. Being open to other races is fine. Exclusively into white men is a problem.
Never question what you like. Always do you!!!
Terrible advice!
Not normal but not mad at it either. Do you.
Normal...? Maybe not expected. If you don't harbor any ill will towards Black men and it's truly just a physical attraction based on limited exposure to Black men outside your own family, I can see how that might happen. If you harbor ill thoughts of Black men due to the stereotypes, you might need to sit with and unpack that. Black people as a collective are not a monolith, and I don't think that you're broken or weird if you're not attracted to Black men.
If you want children, I do think it might be in your best interest to make sure that you provide them with adequate exposure to Black people and Black culture. If you yourself have not had that sort of exposure, it may be difficult... But any children you have with a white man are going to be Black. The world will see them as Black. And it's a disservice to them to not prepare them for that world that they will be living in.
The Black men that I've been encountering end up being trash, so go off sis and send me over a blue/green eye cutie with Jon B/Robin Thicke SOUL 😆🤣