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Family are the first to take advantage of you just because y’all are related… I say charge them.. but offer the F&F discount
Lmao at SSM1 projecting their feelings about couples wanting to go away on holidays while they have kids. What’s so wrong with that? If the people sign up to help, that’s their prerogative. Who forced you to watch their kids mate? You sound like an unreasonably selfish person that regrets their own decisions and now projecting on others. Calm down.
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If you aren't raised in American culture, more often than not, you find reason to say thank God! This is one of them. Very strange to charge your own family for something as simple as watching their pet. WEIRD!
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@SM, do not bring your BS to my inbox, you desperate attention seeker.
I mean, did they charge you the 18 years+ you were a burden on them? I couldn’t come to charge my parents for a favor. Maybe like hey, can you at least stock the fridge, or have an expense amount to buy food.
Watering a plant every two days and sleeping over someone’s house, making sure the dog gets walked 4 times a day, played with etc and uprooting your life for weeks is a BIG difference. …. Especially if you are not 18. Some people have a life … amd responsibilities and others take advantage just because you are family.
This honestly made me audibly saw ew! Why does everything have to be so transactional? And so what if you're inconvenienced?
Your rent point is honestly moot because she's not charging you to stay at her place. Like what if your work required you to travel or you went on vacation for 2 weeks? What is your argument then about paying for rent?
It would cost you money regardless to feed yourself, so what are the additional expenses that you're talking about? You just want to make yourself feel better about being selfish do you asked this question.
As I mentioned above, we have no idea of the family dynamic. Discussing it is kind of a moot point.
I wouldn’t charge my parents but they wouldn’t charge me either
I’d do it for free for my parents; I’d ask my sister to buy a desk for me to work off (folding table) and ensure the fridge is fully stocked
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I get the impression that a lot of the people here saying OP should just do it and stop complaining are the same type of people who ask their own families to do unreasonable favors for them.
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A live in dog sitter is a pretty huge ask for two weeks with no compensation - some families might do that for each other - some not.
This is something that if you went on rover would go for like $1-$2k for the two week period. It’s a pretty major inconvenience for anyone who you known wants to live in their own house.
Given what OP asked for is basically pocket change (might cover like a day of boarding for two dogs) seems pretty over the top to complain about it.
You can’t charge family for pet sitting. End of discussion. If they want to offer you a nominal reimbursement for expenses, you can hint at it but it should not be expected nor required.
Microsoft 1, you clearly have it out for me don’t ya. Drive back & forth because I have my own stuff to take care of. And why do you care? My sister and her husband are doctors & based on their 6 bedroom house they can afford it. I guarantee they make 500k more than me. We have a 10 year age gap, they can spare some McDonalds money.
I don’t understand the posts comparing American and non American culture. I’m a 35 year old white man and would never support my parents. But I wouldn’t hesitate to help family or a close friend with something as mundane as dog sitting.
This isn’t cultural. It’s just a reflection of values. Anyone who won’t dog sit occasionally for their parents without insisting on market comp, is someone who values their own time wore than their relationships with their family and friends. I hate to assume OP is under 30 but I don’t know anyone 30 or over who thinks this way.
Saying a kid is part of a family, and a dog is part of a family, is not the same as saying a dog is equivalent to a kid.
It’s like saying one can’t love a pet and their kid without that love being the same. It’s clearly not.
I pay my friend $50/night to stay in my apartment to watch my 2 cats. She gets the whole place to herself, can have whoever she wants over, and can drive my car (unless we take it with). Firm believer you ought to pay and be paid!
Super generous!
My husband and I pet sit/house sit for his aunt and uncle frequently and will be taking his sister’s dog soon so she can attend a wedding.
Personally, I’d never consider charging them. They don’t take advantage of us and will do us a favor if we need it anytime.
Just ask them to find you a table to work at and then bring over your set up. That’s what I do every time. Frame it as you’d take better care of the dogs if you aren’t running back and forth for work. Even a cheap folding table would do the trick and it’s cheaper than paying someone else.
Otherwise if you are going to be this petty about the whole thing, just don’t say yes to dog sitting?
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Agreed, the work set up seems to be a big deal for you so I’d ask them to make sure they have a table and chair for you to sit at. If they don’t have a kitchen table they can get you a folding table and folding chair. That’s the least they can do.
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They’d have to pay someone else if you said no. 2 weeks is a long time.
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Bro just say you can't do it. Say you'll be out of town or something
Easier than squabbling with family over money like OP is doing. Just say no then.
Honestly…if they can’t afford to go on vacation then they shouldn’t be going. What I mean by that is if they can’t afford to have their dogs boarded or pay for an alternative (especially for 2 weeks!) then that’s on them. I had my 1 dog boarded for 5 days and paid $50/day not including tax and tip. Their lack of financial planning shouldn’t be your burden. FYI there is a 50% discount for each dog after, such that 2 dogs would be $75/day and 3 dogs would be $100/day. They’d be looking at $1,400 at least with 3 dogs. Lastly, I have had my nephew do as you are doing and paid him $30/day with a bonus $50 (total for 3 days) should there be no pee spots on my lawn (he uses a watering can to avoid burn marks). He’s 17 and stays with us but sometimes doesn’t come with us on certain trips such as my friend’s wedding. Don’t have pets if you can’t afford them.
Understood. Definitely makes for an easier interruption, but an interruption nonetheless. I do believe they would be best served boarding at a location that could train the male for the entire 2 weeks. It would make a world of difference. Also great to hear that they adopted. Question…has your brother-in-law spoken to you or all through your sister? I really don’t care what anyone from overseas thinks (and who comments thinking it’s your parents whom you aren’t helping without even reading your responses)…it is a lot to ask of someone for 2 weeks., but that’s up to you, my friend.
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Family means something different to everyone, but generally, if your relationship is good, you just do these things.
None of us are an island and we all need to depend on eachother sooner or later. You may be in a position now where you don't need any assistance from your family but that may not always be the case.
And if you live your life in a way where you avoid asking for help from your family because you don't want to be troubled helping them, then ignore everything I said. For all intents and purposes, you have no family.
OP I think you are getting the very short end of the deal. Family vacation was picked at a time that you can’t even go (I would feel bad about that). Then on top of that, you are asked to take care of sister’s 3 dogs, which causes you a lot more work at a time where you are already under work deadlines. This is a double-whammy. I think family is taking advantage of you.
Some of the comments on here are exactly why people aren’t comfortable saying no! Saying no, especially to family or extended family can be hard because some clowns won’t take no for an answer. And not every family is living and good hearted. Living your life and never saying no sets you up to be walked all over. Eventually you will be in a spot where you have to say no and if their the kind of people who will get mad, then it’s now or later.
Example my mother in law. I had literally gotten home from having my son early. Tough pregnancy and my son had been in the nicu. Since he was early, I didn’t have bottles steriled, etc. and no one came to help. Mind you I’m very independent but at this time, I couldn’t lift from an emergency c-section and blood loss. I was not to be left alone.
But my mother in law had the nerve to call my husband to go pick up his aunt 4 hours away and then drive her another 5 hours in the opposite direction to their uncle who was sick. My mil lived closer and could have done herself. Mind you they both drive and have other kids that drive. He was the person that just never said no! That night he said no. He said no and his mom got mad. his aunt decided she didn’t want to go and had never been sure she wanted to go. She didn’t want to make her kids or husband drive nor did she want to. His mom had just volunteered him because she thought it made her look good. Once he finally set boundaries, we saw the real her. And it wasn’t pretty. But I’d rather know that I’m truly loved for me vs what I can do for someone. Sometimes you find that blood doesn’t make you family. Sad but eye opening.
Yes, but she blames me of course. Lol. This was the first of many times she had to be told no. But honestly it’s been a relief for me. I’m sad for my husband as she has shown herself to be someone different than he thought. It’s disappointing but once you see people’s true colors and intent, it becomes much easier to say no. And no more drama and ridiculous asks anymore.
I’ll be honest, you’re being a dick. Even if it was a friend ima do it for free. There shouldn’t always be a quid pro quo for everything.
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I agree with CU1. One day this guy will need help and he can rely on his sister. Imagine when the tables are turned and she tells him she wants $50 a week for helping. Seriously??
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Yeah, you shouldn't charge them. Bring your work setup and put it at their house. Help your parents so they can have a vacation. You won't have your parents forever, do what you can to help them. Not to mention, it will certainly be easier for the dogs.
Her husband isn’t really involved in the planning to be honest
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I probably wouldn’t charge, but if it is also that big of an inconvenience, I also wouldn’t agree to helping
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I paid my brother $200 for a 5 day vacation. He stayed at my house 4 nights. My dogs is elderly and needs medicine daily and he can’t go into a kennel. My brother makes a third of what I make and during the time he was at my house, he was able to put us dog in daycare.
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I’ll ask him what he wants to eat and make sure I get at least that stuff. I always leave a credit card in case my dog needs an emergency vet visit. And a $20 bill in case he wants something that isn’t in the fridge/freezer.