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Super disciplined. Same time every night for 4 years with my daughter and a year with my son. Maybe a couple times a year there are exceptions and it's usually traveling.
It's actually really beneficial to get kids to sleep between 7:00 and 8:00 to align with their circadian rhythm (generally speaking, there are exceptions)
This is us too. Bedtime battles are practically nonexistent because bedtime is never negotiable.
It definitely means we are more restricted in our afternoon plans because we must be home by a certain time for bedtime. If we want to be out in the evening we get a sitter. This has worked for us and I’m very happy with it, but I respect that this is not the right choice for every family. And that’s okay. Different families function best in different ways.
We are super flexible - with guests and going out to eat, if the kids fall asleep in the car it’s fine. Or if we want to have a movie night, then kids might just go to bed later. Or we might skip various aspects of the bedtime routine if we don’t feel like it / too much complaining.
To be fair we don’t go too crazy bc regardless of when they go to bed… they’re going to be up at 7am lol
So my kid is four but when we were still napping we'd stick with nap schedules at home as much as possible but if pple were here or if we had plans then we'd just bring our pram and have her nap outside or sleep outside in the pram. If friends were over wed let her eat up given we had naps already earlier on and let her interact until we can tell it's really bedtime for her. At the end of the day kids also need to be flexible and grow up understanding that the world resolved around a group when we're out together or with friends/family especially. Of course my background is not American so that may impact my attitude on this.
Follow schedule where and when you can but don't kill yourself over it. They are resilient and can learn and will bounce back always.
We never deviate from the sleep schedule. 7pm-7am, 1-3pm. Kids are happy and well-rested. People can visit us at home and we will take 5 minutes to put the kids to bed on time and continue to host. Or we take turns going out or have a sitter.
20 months and 3.5 years. They’ve been on the same schedule for about 6 months since my youngest dropped the second nap. My oldest will probably drop naps altogether in the next year or so, but we will keep quiet time.
Kids that age need to sleep around 11 or 12 hours, including naps. If your child naps, then they can probably go to sleep later. If they don’t, then you might want to make some sacrifices with your evening schedule. Exceptions will happen but I try to make sure they have a bit of extra time to sleep the next day (either by sleeping in, napping or going to bed early) and that they don’t have a really busy day. However, I’ve learned that’s what worked for my kid because I tried having them sleep less and they were really cranky the next day (understandably so).
My learning moment was when we went on vacation and the restaurant for dinner took really long and we decided to go for a walk so their bed time got pushed almost 2 1/2 hours. The next day we woke up somewhat early to go to the zoo and they were just not having it. They wanted to nap in the stroller and not see any of the animals (super unusual for my kid because they love zoos).
Super disciplined, but because my toddler was a low-sleep psycho who would get overtired and stay up until nearly midnight, then wake up between 3-4 am, take 30 minutes to fall back asleep, then wake up ready to party by 630 am and still refuse to nap the next day.
He's three now, so still refuses naps, but does sleep solid from 830p - 7a finally. Glad that nightmare is over!
I am 100% inflexible about nap and bedtimes. Have been since he was 5 months old. He’s 2.5 now, but he naps and sleeps amazingly and we needed to know we were off at night by a certain time. Very thankful it worked for us. I know other people don’t need that or get it, but it’s what worked for us.
Exact same for us!
Try to get him to bed by 7/7.30 but rest of the day we are super flexible and get him to nap on the go so we aren’t nap trapped at home (my worst nightmare)
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Super flexible. Our 2 year old usually goes to bed around 9 or 930pm and is up around 8am. Lately we were *too* flexible, she wasn't going down until after 10, and she was having trouble getting up in time to have breakfast at daycare. So we had to dial it back.
FYI: "A 2-year-old should typically be in bed between 7:00 to 8:00 PM to ensure they get enough total sleep for the 24-hour period, which is between 11 and 14 hours for this age group."
We stick to our toddler bedtime cuz when she is tired and fussy it’s not fun for anyone
We stick to an 80/20 rule. We stick the the schedule 80% of the time and allow for some flexibility a couple days a week.
My wife read all sorts of books on sleeping training and was religious on sleep schedule and no co-sleeping. I am so thankful she did as it was the best thing for our child and our marriage.
Baby (16m old) goes to bed when baby is tired. Sometimes it’s 7, sometimes it’s 9 or 10 🤷🏻♀️
Both my kids are really good sleepers, 10+ hrs/night so I don’t fight it.
Very disciplined with our 3 and 1.5 year olds. We rarely go past 7pm for bedtime. Sometimes they’re wiped out by 6:30pm. We started their sleep scheduling when they were almost 6 months old. There are exceptions but if we creep past 8:30/9 it’s a nightmare trying to get them down.
We are flexible with nap time, but not bedtime!
We try to limit it to 1 or 2 nights a week out of routine.
We stay flexible on the clock but keep the bedtime routine and always put our child in their own bed it makes it clear that it’s bedtime.
We have a 10 month old, usually keeping the same bedtime routine which has helped with schedule and sleep. Weekends can be more flexible but making any changes to baby’s habit can change their sleep schedule so have to see what works best for you and the baby
Thanks folks! These responses make me feel better tbh. I think I was over worrying. Yes, the kid doesn’t get cranky and “manages” his sleep decently so guess things should be okay.
Staying with a set bedtime schedule is very important for kids. Their growing bodies and minds require a consistent schedule. It will keep them healthy and functional. Otherwise, expect emotional swings, tantrums. eating issues, learning issues, and immune system issues. Kids are very delicate when it comes to their schedules. Do a google search for the amount of hours your child needs at their age, and the best time for bed. Being a parent means you no longer come first, especially when they're young.