Keep hearing “having two is easier,” somehow I don’t think I agree having 2 is easier. Maybe I’m wrong?

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Whoever is telling you having two wives is easier is nuts

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One is like one. Two is like ten. One benefit of having two is that you can laugh about how you thought one was difficult.

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If we are talking about children and not wives, it is, like many things in life,important to have a spare.

I have 7 because surely one of them will turn out well enough to take care of me.

Opposite side of course is at least one of them will hate me and be annoying on any given day ;)

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@P1, that's a different bowl.

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No matter how many you have it is hard and you are at your max. There were things that were easier with two (like I knew what I was doing) but then you had to learn new things about how to put head on a swivel when you have both kids. Going to 3 was harder than going to 2 simply because there were not enough hands. Sure, the two older ones could play together, but that only lasts until someone doesn’t share. And going to four kids has been a whole new challenge. It is all a matter of priorities, being present to what is going on, and coming to grips with the fact that some things just won’t get done.

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BCG 1. I have never had more than one current wife. ;).

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Two is harder. People say that to mess with others. Two is also more fun.

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Tried for a second. Only got one. Despite endless judgment from others we love it. Have travelled the world with her and she’s a total champion

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BA1 - Good point! Maybe it’s really when they are older is when it becomes better

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Mine are 13 and 14 years old, about 19 months apart. First two years are hard. After that they really do entertain each other and become best friends.

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It gets easier when the little one is 3-4 and they can independently play together for long stretches of time

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P1 - 7?! 😮 can’t imagine

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For us 2 was easy. 3 was hard. Too many variables to simplify with a cliche phrase. Dad of 5 here.

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5 year old and a 3 week old and I am losing my shit. Also I am doing about a tenth the work my wife is doing.

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SC1 - My plan is to join Slalom when # 2 on the way, my daughter will be 6, I’m thinking that won’t be so bad

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Went from 1 immediately to 3 with surprise fraternal twins.

To me going from 0 to 1 involves large changes to your lifestyle and priorities.

Beyond 1 was just a matter of scale and logistics as we had already adapted to the new way of life.

On the bright side, you get through diaper phase ASAP in this mode but having 3 under 3 for....a while, is rough.

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Is this like “One is None, Two is One”? So like, you don’t have to worry about screwing up because you have a spare?
So kidding

We have two boys 2 years apart and it works well for us. Lots of hand me down clothes and they entertain each other. Still don’t have to buy a minivan!

Yes. Mine are 9 and 6

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