Lost dog in breakup (adopted together etc.), is there ever a time to try and see the dog again? Haven’t thought it through fully but curious if other people know of it working ever.

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I was seeing a guy who was sharing a dog with his ex, and it just became so clear he was still emotionally tied to his ex because they were constantly talking about exchanging the dog. Stopped seeing him because he was emotionally hung up on the ex.

Watched a friend of mine lose 2 dogs in a divorce and it was so tough, neither person could heal or move on. They discussed each taking one dog but the dogs were bonded and it wasn’t fair so their ex kept both dogs.

IMO neither of you will move on and it’s worth the short pain of missing the dog than hurting yourself/each other trying to share custody of a dog.

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Thank you

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Dogs are resilient. They will generally love whoever gives them food and pets them. Consider getting another dog to fill the void.

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Yeah, he’ll be fine, I know that. And I’m strongly considering it - looking to volunteer at a shelter in meantime.

I know some couples who split custody of a dog. Also when one went out of town, the other watched. After a bit, text them and say that you would like to see the dog once in a while or when they go out of town and see the reaction

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Felt weird knowing about vacations/personal details about ex. Though it’s like what divorced people do with kids I guess.

Been there and decided against it because 1) it would continually hurt as I would see the dog less and less, plus an emotional toil with the dog 2) I wanted a clean break from my ex and not have any part of me intertwining in her life going forward

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Yeah, that’s where I’ve been and am. Just have been on a streak of missing the pup.

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