My boyfriend and I argue a lot through text but not in person or over the phone . We both feel like the other talks too much about work 🤷‍♀️ random but when did you know it was time to break up? Bs work it out

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So this was our third disagreement , we broke up tho time
First one was him saying I should be with someone else that makes more sense.
Second was him saying how much he wanted kids while he was unemployed
Third was him wanting more out of me - support
How are you? How’s your day?

Soo idk never went through this with other guys . Always seemed like not fun just work between us. So we ended it

I think I Learned a lot about what I don’t want and what some red flags are

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Coming from someone who jetted off with my now husband smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ at least try to have the conversation. Also, try to pinpoint why you’re arguing through text but can’t say it to one another. There’s the deeper question…

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If you gotta ask, then split imo

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Dump him!

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Darn lol no chance for a convo huh 😂

Say you are tired of xyz and don't want to put up with it anymore. That'll start the conversation. It's up to your partner to make changes, communicate their issues, and ultimately decide if they want out as well.

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If you’re only arguing over text and never in person, this sounds like a written communication style issue. You both could agree to keep texts short and to discuss any misunderstandings via text on a call or in person. If you start fighting via text, you could both agree to stop and discuss later.

If you both agree that you both talk about work too much, schedule an hour each day for you both to talk to each other about work. Agree to stop after that and discuss other topics.

If you still feel like it might be time to break up, have a talk with him about what’s really bothering you and what might be really bothering him.

Well I feel like you guys should have other things to talk about other than work. I get that it takes up the majority of the day, but I really don’t want to talk about work for more than 20 minutes a day outside of when I’m on the clock.

The text thing is interesting too. Are you both afraid to bring it up to each other in person? Through text, it’s also much easier to take something the wrong way because you don’t know how it’s actually being said, so maybe that’s the root of the problems. You need to either figure out if you want to try to work it out or are over it, but definitely do some self reflection as to if you really do talk about work too much, because if so, you’ll bring that into your next relationship and probably find yourself in the same predicament

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