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My boyfriend has been using my credit card without telling me. Besides flipping the f out, is there anything else I can do

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I'm sure he had to know you were going to get a statement and is probably super nervous to come out about it. Talk to him about it, but make sure to not come from an accusatory perspective but from a place of figuring out the household budget to get through this tough time together and honesty is going to be the core of it. Mistrust with finances can severely cripple relationships. If he's up front with you about loosing his job hopefully he'll be open to discussing resolutions from a household perspective and can put pride aside.

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This is getting shit crazy. OP there are two ways to look at it. First: he broke your trust or Second: he had trust on you that you will understand. Which one to pick is depending on how are you looking forward. Have a frank conversation and then decide. In any case he has to understand that it was not okay not only because he did hide this from you but also because you were not okay with this. Whatever the case and try to understand, if you have not taken decision yet, why he did that!! Best of luck OP!!

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ummmmm dump him. unless he's paying you back for all those purchases, using your card without asking? that crosses a line. what else is he not telling you?

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Cancel card. Get new card numbers. Get new boyfriend.

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^yes, I believe this would fall under credit card theft.

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Dump him and call the cops are two options

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Preggers?

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Call your credit card company and dispute the charges because of an unauthorized user. Have the credit card company issue you a new card. Call the cops and press charges and dump his ass. Also, consider putting all non-essential credit cards in a safe or safe disposition box at the bank to secure them.

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My boyfriend has been using my Netflix acct without telling me. I'm not sure what to do either...

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Took my card and used it. He is not an authorized user. Can I call my card company and get the charges removed or not possible?

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more importantly, why cant you break it off with him?

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Waiting on your reply OP... 🍿

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Exactly. Wtf? If you can't even trust him with money, what can you trust him with? Dump his ass

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I swear more female consultants dating deadbeats than any other profession. I'm

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Get ready to break up with your scumbag boyfriend.

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Decide if you want him arrested or not. In order to have the charges removed, you'll have to throw him under the bus.

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Yeah I'd give him an ultimatum - full repayment or you're filing a police report. Break up either way obviously. It's his choice whether or not he wants a criminal record. Could be a felony depending how much he stole.

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Assuming you mean ex- boyfriend

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I'd say offer him a chance to explain himself. Maybe he didn't even think it was a problem and was in a what's mine is yours kind situation. Maybe he would totally be fine in you using his.

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OP, we will need an update..

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Yeah can we get some more details on what was bought, who this guy is, how long you've been together, what he does for a living, how much he contributes financially to the relationship financially, etc.? Lots of knee jerk reactions with no facts to rely on

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What he did was wrong but The poor guy bought just food and alcohol and that too coz he lost his job. Why don't you communicate with him and sit down and talk like mature adults. Son many people here are so eager to jump to conclusions

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