My boyfriend has been using my credit card without telling me. Besides flipping the f out, is there anything else I can do

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Yeah I'd give him an ultimatum - full repayment or you're filing a police report. Break up either way obviously. It's his choice whether or not he wants a criminal record. Could be a felony depending how much he stole.

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What he did was wrong but The poor guy bought just food and alcohol and that too coz he lost his job. Why don't you communicate with him and sit down and talk like mature adults. Son many people here are so eager to jump to conclusions

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Probably dump him but id ask him first and definitely force him to repay before calling the cops. Also are we talking about him forgetting his card and buying chipotle 3 times or shopping spree?

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If this dude is stealing your money now/using YOUR CC without your consent, it's prob gonna be worse in the future. Dump his ass to prevent any bigger heartache/financial loss.

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He lost his job: what he bought was alcohol and food over a period of weeks

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There is more to this story...

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My dude

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Are you certain your cc wasn't saved on a laptop you both use and he checked out on Amazon of Grubhub with your details by mistake?

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Trump that b1tch

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If you don't file a police report, you have no chance of disputing this with the credit bureaus. Be smart and think about your future and dump this idiot.

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Dtmfa

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I'm sure he had to know you were going to get a statement and is probably super nervous to come out about it. Talk to him about it, but make sure to not come from an accusatory perspective but from a place of figuring out the household budget to get through this tough time together and honesty is going to be the core of it. Mistrust with finances can severely cripple relationships. If he's up front with you about loosing his job hopefully he'll be open to discussing resolutions from a household perspective and can put pride aside.

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Bad boy

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OP hasn't shared everything about the episode and the bf and the relationship. I would hold off on passing judgement. I bet there is more to the story than we know

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Doesn't he have like savings? And if not, why not? I lost my job but doesn't mean I can't float myself until I get another one.

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Is he an Authorized User on the card, or blatantly stole your card and used it?

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^safe deposit box. Thank you, autocorrect. 🙌🏻

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You can call the credit card company, however they'll want a police report etc. so if you want to not be liable for the charges you'll need to tell the police he stole your card.

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Why can't you file anything with the police? Sounds more like you don't want to...

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If you're so close that you can't break up, then it's "your money" in the long run anyway! What the fuck is the big deal? Is he hiding expensive shit or did he go to lunch at chipotle? Of course if he is using it because he can't afford a burrito and guacamole in the first place, then you've made a terrible life choice and are screwed no matter what.

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What does he do

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What did he buy?

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