my “friend” got lesser raise than normal. It’s suddenly becoming a problem that my salary band is higher than hers and the fact I got promotion this month even when we worked at different company and industry. I suddenly got comments like you make so much money. You shouldn’t complain.. she started saying bad things about me. Tell me what else should i do to this kind of person besides cutting her off (which I already did)? Welcome any creative solutions.

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You violated rule #1: never discuss salary with family in friends.

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@deloitte 1. Good one 😆

If a friend gets jealous of you being better off then you shouldn’t consider him/her as a friend anymore because obviously they didn’t consider you as a friend but more like someone to compare and feel better about themselves. True friends will always be proud of you and feel happy for you

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Ahhh I LIVED with this. Female Fish. I moved in with a university friend temporarily during covid. He is in audit, and I am in tech consulting. Naturally, there is a big pay gap between us despite going to same school and graduating at the same time, and working at competing firms. It became a big issue really quick. At first it was remarks to how could I possibly save X much money in 2 months, then it was remarks to my expensive taste, and then it became splitting hair for groceries (as in you bought tomatoes but I didnt eat any of it so you owe me 3 bucks).
I would say set boundaries early on and don’t end up like me. I was living with the person but I quickly realized they resent me for how much more I make so I moved out bot so amicably . Jokes on him, I just a got a raise and a job offer and now I think I make almost double his salary.

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Congrats! It’s exactly the progression of my story. It’s gotten to where even if I make any unrelated comments to them, they would say because she has money. She preaches but lives like 💩. That’s why a part of me wants a creative solution just to make them become a joke! But after a good night sleep, just don’t feel like the need too

Not your fault she's not as talented as you.

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Yes, talent = income 🤡

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That’s not a very good “friend”. I’d reconsider the relationship or talk to them about it. Life is too short to hang unsupportive, envious people.

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What do you mean by “do to her”?

Friends can get jealous. If it’s too intolerable, don’t talk to her. If she’s a group friend type, I’d be willing to still see her in groups. I have one friend I kinda hate who I’m willing to hang out with in groups. Another guy is too awful, I won’t talk to him or hang out with him alone or in groups.

Ask if they have a problem with the money you make. Let them know it makes you feel uncomfortable when they bring it up. If they’re a true friend they will respect you.

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