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My SO got a great job offer in Bangkok and we need to decide soon. I’ve always been very independent and never followed a partner to another city or country. Will it be bad for my career to join him even while there is a little change I can find a job in Bangkok? Not sure what to do right now. Due to covid I recently got laid off and am already not in my home country but have lived here over 7 years. Any advice? Me following him or we both try to find another job in the country we are in now.

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There is no shame in following someone somewhere. It doesn’t mean you’re giving something up for someone, the two of you are investing in your future. They have an opportunity but so do you! You don’t have a job right now, get some life experience! Try something new with the person you love! Life is short, what do you have to lose?

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Is this the person you plan on spending the rest of your life with?

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My SO followed me twice to different countries for my job. He’s the one who adapted and figured out his career on the fly (also an advertising creative). It was clear that we would finish our lives together and this was a decision we made together. “Whoever gets the job first in that country we decided on gets followed by the other.” It’s in incredible adventure! It goes beyond your career. I lived in south east Asia, Europe, North America. Everything is valuable. But if you’re hesitating it sounds like he might not be “the one” or that you didn’t both decide on a different destination? Or you like the current country you’re in too much. Don’t have enough context but I’d say yes! But that’s my personality.

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If you are hesitant to follow him that’s probably your answer. You will find a new job wherever you are but moving to Bangkok you really need to be all in or nothing.

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Ask yourself if you are currently happy. What are the most important things you could you be losing if you move and cannot have there? Then ask are you willing to sacrifice that. If it's simply just fear of the unknown, don't let that scare you. You're always one (or two) flights away from going home.

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It’s hard to know without all the details and what you want to do. Bangkok is an amazing city and very metropolitan, but it’s a lot to handle and probably not for everyone. I personally LOVE it. One thing I do know - there’s zero shame in “following a partner to another city” if you want to be together, and if you want to go. But make sure you find something that fulfills *you* (work related or not). There will be lonely days where your SO totally pisses you off, and it helps to know that you want to be in the new location for your own reasons, outside of his job. It’s a slippery slope to seething resentment, so make sure you’re there for your own reasons too.

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YOLO

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You’ll love Bangkok!

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Bangkok is awesome! Is your partner? Look at this as a crazy fucking year and do something fucking crazy. It’s not irreversible. Embrace the adventure!

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Bangkok is a fantastic city. Difficult to work in if you don’t speak the language (a lot of it will be adapt) but it’s a super fun place and you’ll get the opportunity to see a new part of the world. You could do worse than have a year or 2 of fun and interesting experiences, even if you don’t have anything incredible to add to your book.

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I know creatives who have gone to Bangkok and worked there and returned to the states and continued working. There are some good shops there. Sounds like a potentially great life opportunity. If you’re not sure about making the move because of your SO, obviously you have to figure that out for yourself.

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Take the chance and go for it. You could always come back.

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Sounds like you have a once-in-a-lifetime decision to make. Which means go for it. Even if the job/relationship doesn’t work out, it’s a life-changing experience to have. Personally, I wish I’d spent more time working/living in a foreign market. It’ll make you smarter, better, and more creative.

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Bangkok is a wonderful place. What’s there to loose? Try new things and if doesn’t work out come Bck again. Life is about exploring new things. Many jobs in asia comes from Bangkok.. lifestyle is affordable there. You will love the travel and humble people there

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Feel like it could only be good for your career. When you get back to America you would be more worldly, have global market experience, and possibly some experience in a new language. Plus as a creative (hopefully art?) your work translates and offers a new perspective. My company has an office in Bangkok. Would be happy to give it a shot and send your resume there.

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Tough call- I moved for love a few years ago (while terrified about what impact it would have on my career when I was already working for a job and company I loved) but it worked out to be the best decision ever. For both my career and my happiness. Sometimes, you just have to listen to your heart over your head and everything will fall into place. Best of luck in whatever decision you choose.

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I went from NYC to Bangkok and back in NYC. Loved working and living in BKK. Hit me up if you have any questions. My SO followed me to BKK also. She spent time volunteering with NGOs and it was incredibly fulfilling.

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No brainer...be an adventurer, go and live in a different culture and language. You’ll grow in a direction that’ll surely deepen your perspective. Guys and girls, ad agency isn’t the end all...lol. Be brave and be bold. Follow your partner’s lead and everything else will follow suit.

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Careers are ten a penny. Go to Bangkok and live a beautiful life.

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Think not just about your career but your life! What an adventure- I wouldn’t hold back - but it’s a personal decision. Bet you can find work too - even if freelancing.

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