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My son is turning 2 and I have to tell myself to STOP ✋ when my brain takes it too far. But I can relate. I find that, for me, it correlates to broader stress and exhaustion. I have a therapist that I talk to to help manage with that.
I highly recommend the Happy As A Mother podcast. There’s an episode on this specifically called Understanding Scary And Intrusive Thoughts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-as-a-mother/id1480889809?i=1000481622305
Her podcast helped me navigate postpartum depression and postpartum rage SO much
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I felt similarly for about the first year of my child’s life. Looking back on it I wish I had talked to a therapist at the time just to make it a little easier on myself. The anxiety made it hard and more stressful than it needed to be. It’s hard enough having a small child without this added on.
I’m the exact same way. My oldest is 6 and I’m still waiting for the worry to relax like everyone says it will lol. But in all reality, and not to project my own experiences, but this sounds like actual anxiety, not just newer parent fears.
If the anxiety is really effecting your everyday life and keeps you from enjoying time with your child because you are so worried, then you might consider looking into some help.
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I feel this. I’m still this way with three kids and once my oldest started asking about death and dealing with his own anxiety it got worse for me. We are both starting therapy soon because it seems that we are both this way. He worries about us, himself and our family often and it’s hard for me to discuss with him because I am so paralyzed by it. My husband has been helping with these conversations but I think it’s gotten to a point we need outside help.
Thanks all. I think I need help. Appreciate the feedback.
Definitely felt this for the first couple of years (my little is 7 now). He also had breath holding spells - so would literally turn blue and pass out. Terrifying.
It does fade. You just have to remember it's not true, it's in your head. And it's okay to be cautious, but being cautious doesn't mean disrupting your life in the process.
Talk therapy also helps a lot.
I’ve experienced this too. 2 littles ones and it doesn’t go away w the second kid.
Part of this is being a mom now and seeing all these red flags/emergency moments that u didn’t before. It’s good, it keeps things from not getting too lax/comfortable. As mentioned above, just remind yourself it’s not going to happen.
but if it goes to the extreme and is constant it may be worth taking to doctor/therapist.
I’ve had these types of intrusive thoughts ever since my son (my 2nd kid) was born. His older sister came down with the flu 3 days after he was born, despite getting the flu shot - so it sent me down a spiral of being convinced he wouldn’t survive infanthood or childhood. I have been in therapy and on Zoloft, then switched to Lexapro. He is 2 now, and it’s getting somewhat better - I don’t worry about him falling so much now that he is more coordinated. But the pandemic introduced new fears and anxieties, of course. Hang in there, and I would definitely recommend getting back on SSRIs and seeing a therapist who specializes in PPD/PPA/PPOCD. Here to talk any time, too - just PM me ❤️
It sounds beyond what is comfortable even if others have experienced it. Maybe talk to a therapist and see if you can find relief in some way.
If the thoughts are vivid and frequent seek professional help. It’s ok to talk to someone!
I suffered from the same kind of intrusive thoughts when my son was a year old. I didn’t realize it until later but it was a form of PPD. And I wish I had spoken to a therapist about it but I was too ashamed to tell other people I was experiencing such horrible thoughts. Definitely talk to someone.
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It could be post partum mixed in with some post traumatic stress. I think the hormones with the very real fear of Covid could make us fear the worst. I’ve had both separately but can tell you that I imagined all worst case gruesome scenarios post 911. And had the worst anxiety of my life post baby. The combo could be the cause. And after my second child my hormones were not the same for about 2 years. So the post baby stuff could linger longer I believe. When I stay of social media and news for a bit it helps me. But if you need medical help definitely talk to a doctor. What you’re experiencing is normal but still may require treatment.
I have experienced this and have bouts of worst case scenario thinking. It’s definitely stress-related. Try to fit a 10 min breathing/ meditation into your day or week. On the calm app, there are exercises for positive thinking and stopping negative thought loops. And prioritize getting 7-8 hrs sleep.
My kid only just started sleeping through the night (at 20 months!) so I’m convinced this is a big part of my mental state
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Thank you for bringing this up. I’ve been too ashamed to.