Parent wants me to write a glowing college recommendation letter for their child, but I honestly don't think they're ready. How do you navigate this without damaging the relationship?

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Write what you feel and mail it directly to the college.

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Politely decline because you have too much on your plate as this is the end of the school year. Which is true.

Don't send a letter badmouthing the student. It will get back to the parent who will feel betrayed.

If you feel you must send a letter then think about what the child's actual strengths are then focus on those. Some recommendations are actually forms that call for the recommender to rate strengths and areas needed for improvement as well as questions that aligned with the school's mission statement.

I did one for a student trying to get into ABC program for private schools. The likert scale rating was easier because it seemed more objective.

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