This job is not for women with kids unless you go on some sort of reduced schedule or stay up super late most nights after the kids are asleep. This is so impossible!! 😖 just needed to vent somewhere

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Yup that pretty much summarizes my busy season

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Unfortunately I think Big 4 parents ultimately have to decide what they care more about...consistent quality time with family or working the Big 4 hours. People will tell you that you can do both, but you have to dig in an understand what “quality time” means to those folks. Often it means only weekends and/or vacations.

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My wife and I both work; she has a big job too equally stressful. We made it work. Everything goes in our calendars. We had a nanny and always made sure 1 of us was home by 7pm when the nanny would leave. We would work from home after dinner, etc. It was hard, but with a lot of communication and working things out we made it work. We are both partners now. Our kids are older; daughter (15) and a son (12). We have a lot more flexibility now, etc. Those years when the kids were younger were tough but we are both happy we made it work (no pun intended)

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Yes, he has a job and works almost as much as I do. The stress is overwhelming and not good for our family.

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Yeah I’ve been working 8-12 every night and it’s so exhausting

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It's very challenging. Either you have to have a supportive spouse or supportive family nearby.

Snow days during busy season are especially difficult.

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yeah you can make it work but ultimately you wont be able to see your child a lot. You miss out on your kid growing up. I am making it work but there are days when I am not available to my kid. Yes he is with my husband and he is well taken care of but I feel like I am missing out on what is important in life? For what? Well, for sure not for money because I get paid crap at senior level.

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Yes, it is tough. Started my career in PA late in the Big4 and with a toddler and twin infants. Having a supportive spouse is key as I had to put in my hours as a staff, and so is communication with the engagement teams and partner group. As I progressed, my husband and I made the decision that I would reduce my hours since his job paid the bills and was taking off. Been on a reduced schedule ever since. Other families decide to get full time nannies or the spouse stays home. It's all a personal decision on how you want to raise your kids and get through this moment in time while they are little. Either one has its advantages/disadvantages that you live with and accept. At least PA does provide the flexibility of reduced schedules. Our mindset is that this career is a marathon and not a sprint.

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You have to make a choice....do you want to raise your kid or will someone else?

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It is very helpful to have a stay-at-home spouse/significant other. it really takes team work with the SO putting in extra effort while you are in busy season. Hopefully your with a firm that has some down period where you play "catch up with the kids"

Any SO? My spouse stays at home- that's the only way I've survived.

Agree. Some appear to have partner groups that would work with you. Many don't.

Gotta do what you gotta do though

Well, you don’t gotta do it. You could do something else for work and prioritize spending quality time with your kids over money and personal achievement. It really comes down to a choice of what you want more. If you want the career, you probably have to choose to outsource the raising of your children to a nanny. Or one person in the marriage has to take a step back and be the one primarily raising the kids on a day-to-day basis

Similar situation to EY2 and agree 100% with comments. Communication is key both ways - with family and work. There will be hard times but you can do it and feel proud of all accomplishments.

@EY 2, do you get to spend quality time with your kids. do you feel having missed something when your family was young.

My sons are 10 and 11 now but when they were babies and toddlers, and even up until maybe 4 years ago, it was tough. Both of us work, and I travel frequently. It gets easier as the kids become more independent but then the stress changes to homework help, puberty and helping them cope with life. Ultimately, I get up earlier and go to bed later than I’d like to be able to fit it all in....it’s worth it, though.

You have to make a choice....do you want to raise your kid or will someone else?

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