I'm an SA, and my fiance is finishing up her residency and loves the medical field. I make good money and have a house but I feel like the relationship and the obligations (house, family) are anchors and holding me back from living my life. I want to sell and live on the road, traveling and being free.

I love my fiance and my family but I just want to quit everything and just hit the road.

Fiance does not want that lifestyle. Shes more of a 2-3 weeks of vacation is good.

Am I being dumb?

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I think Covid world had made a lot of people thinking, is this the life I really wanted, given life is short and our society is fragile. And of course all the stress of job security, whether I would lose the job etc.. I get it.

However, what I would do first if I were you before leaving it all behind is to take an extended time off. Road trip (with social distancing) for a month on your own, travel across America, go hiking in the woods and try disconnect from it all. After that, see whether you mentality changes.

I recently felt the same thing, the instability in life and stress makes me want to give up all and just hit the restart button. I took a trip to Asheville, stay in the woods for 2 weeks. At the end of it, my mental health improved and I actually wanted to go back to my own house.

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Not dumb, but it sounds like you and your fiancé want different things. It’s a good thing you’re aware of that BEFORE you get married.

That said, is now the time to go living in the road?

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