POV: you overheard a coworker's conversation saying something that feels untrue about another coworker you're pretty close to. What would you recommend is the best way to move forward with this? I don't like drama one bit, but it also feels morally wrong to have heard this and not let the coworker I have a good relationship with know.

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MYOB. Seriously. Consider the options:

1) Confront this coworker about what they said - now you’re the person who decides to “spy” on other’s conversations.

2) Tell the coworker you’re pretty close to about what the other coworker said - now you’re the tattletale and who knows what the coworker you told will do. Maybe they’ll do nothing. Maybe they’ll confront the person and let it be know you were the source.

There are literally zero good options, so, in the end, MYOB.

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I would probably give the coworker I like a “heads up” that they may want to be careful around the other coworker. Wouldn’t say what is said but if you have a good relationship that might be enough.

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I would go back and tell the person who said the untrue remark and correct them. Don't get into a heated discussion but make them aware that you don't agree with spreading false statements.

DON"T tell your co-worker. Don't hurt them. Just defend them, if you can.

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Bring up the comment you overheard, to the person who made it, in the presence of the person the comment was about.

i.e. coworker A is the one you like, coworker X is the one spreading lies, you should tell A that X is spreading lies, and bring up the lie directly to X's face, while A is standing right there.

Why not? Choose violence.

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I don't involve HR in my life. I never escalate things. I speak directly and would walk right up and interject.

Stay out of it. Drama is about them

Feels untrue or is untrue? If it was mean just address the coworker you overheard directly, no harm telling people to be kind and mind their own business. If not, just keep it to yourself, being kind applies to everyone.

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I would look at it like this… would you want to know? Could it hurt their career if it isn’t addressed? If either of these are a solid YES, then approach your friend with something like “there’s someone at work saying X. I feel like that isn’t true and wanted you to know so you could handle it as you see fit. I really didn’t want to be in the middle of it but I would want to know if it was me.” Leave it at that. If they want to know who, I would tell them. Then let them handle it. The other person could be trying to sabotage them to get their job or whatever. Or it could be true but not something your friend would want other co-workers to know. Either way, they can get out ahead of it and do whatever is necessary to not let it get out of control.

Btw… I would want to know.

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