Really cannot decide if I should change my name or not. I know it means a lot to my husband but I've established my career with this one. Sort of feeling like I'm picking between work and him. But also his last name isn't the most attractive the world has to offer. I'd rather he and I feel close than anything but I just don't want to resent it later!!

I need friends 🥺

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

How do you guys make friends in a new town?

Has anyone had experience trying to bring their parent to Canada permanently? I’m looking to move from Asia - just lost a parent, so need to find a way to stay with my other parent. how does the process work? TIA!

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

I have a para/assistant teacher that just wants to argue over everything. “You’re the teacher, why do I have to assess the children during break out rooms?” We have 8 kids, and I am only asking her to do 3! The other para is doing 3 and I and doing 2 with IEPs!!! How am I supposed to handle this in a professional manner virtually? Plus she is frustrated b/c o can’t explain everything. I keep telling her it’s all new to me too. Grace is not a word in her vocab. And I am feeling graceless.

How do you deal with your boyfriend still being friends with someone he slept with before? Kind of bothers me but not sure if it’s normal....

Comforting others:
When someone tells me bad news regarding their health, I say everything I am supposed to say (I’m sorry to hear that, I’m here for you, etc) EXCEPT “everything is going to be ok”. Because I can’t guarantee that and I really don’t know if everything is going to be ok. I was taken aback recently when a friend told me I am calloused and cold-hearted for not being able to say those words. Is she right? Should I start saying this for the purposes of providing comfort only??

My marriage is struggling and we have to pack up the kids and fake it till we make it with my in laws for most of their Christmas break. I don't want a divorce but things are not good, and it's hard to pretend they are even in front of the kids. Looking for advice I guess, or just a kind word. Really don't want the in-laws finding out and trying to put their two cents in, and neither does she.

Desi folks! Why do you let your parents manage your profile on the websites? It’s so uncomfortable when you get a call at 4 am saying “beta, we like your profile.” 🤷🏽‍♂️

How many folks here looking to actually connect for serious relationship (potentially converting to marriage)?

I’ll start 🙋🏻‍♂️ 30, located in the US (east coast) - open to worldwide relocation.

I’m mid 30s F. Recently started seeing this guy, where he is “good enough”. Good conversations, decent time together, he has a good heart, but nothing about him shines. - not fit (I work out everyday and play sports), meh social skills (he doesn’t have best friends, just few he hangs out with), bit less energy than me.
There is a feeling in me that says “he’s going to be a comfortable life partner” and “he is just good enough, but if I break up I won’t find someone for a long time”
Do I stay?

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Any recommendations for the best cities in Europe to visit with young kids (5, 2, 0)? Looking for a week after visiting Paris or London

Hi guys

This question may not be related. However I wanted to know from personal and family point of view how it is like to relocate from India and live abroad .
Let's say Family consists of husband , wife and a kid . I understand we will get good facilities, education, cleanliness , good air etc , however I wanted to check whether people gel up easily in the new environment? Don't they feel loneliness/ difficult to adjust? Do they look for similar asian nationalities to kill boredom?

Would you marry a man with ED if he was perfect otherwise?

How do you break up with a long time friend who drains your energy with their problems/drama? I’m so done with selfish people.

Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

Guys, just want to hear your opinion on something/ what a guy would think ): my husband and I rarely argue but we recently have argued a lot more for little things. (See comment)

How do you deal with imposter syndrome? I'm a new therapist and I work with a bunch of women who have been doing this for ages. They're all really sweet, but I can't help feeling like I'm way out of my league. I mostly see younger clients which I guess works in my favor, but I just feel like I'm totally incompetent compared to the women I work with.

Are we permitted work phones? New joiner today!

My cat sat outside the shower door crying. So I let him in, per his request. Guess how it went?

Hi,
If anyone interested in NFT project HMU. Looking for partners

Is it recommended to join HSBC as a business analyst? How is the job security, quality of work for business analysts, and domain exposure in the (GTC) – WPB unit?

I feel like I die a little inside every time someone cites Wikipedia instead of actual research

Senior revving up to manager promo. Only nervous about one thing at the manager level which is having to answer pointed “Why??” questions from higher up clients on live calls. Any one else work through something like this? I’d appreciate any tips or suggestions as I really suck at dealing with unexpected push back.

Trying to narrow down my quarter life crisis. Currently I’m looking at a UX Design bootcamp, do people actually hire from these bootcamps?

Does UBS provide laptop?
I am hearing from HR that laptops are not issued. If that is the case how does WFH happen and how does flexibility work?
Any inputs would be really helpful
Joining next week.

ZS Associates and FIS global..
Which company is better to join?
Please help me to choose

Hello Everyone
I have a offer from pwc for senior associate role for 6 yoe, I have another offer as well.
any suggestions pwc revise offer or match the ctc of another company.

What is the expexted salary range for a 12 year exp in PWC AC in SAP Funtional domain?

How is PwC AC in terms of WLb and Career growth and opportunities? Tech -SAP YOE-6+ EY Deloitte PwC Accenture IBM Accenture Cognizant

How are these finance memes??

Can anyone recommend a good headhunter that has experience in placing agency strategists on the client side (not just agency only)?

Anyone know why they call market paying firms “Biglaw”? Why not “Top Dollar Firms”?

How come in TV shows there are different salaries for different actors? And it's even worse when you bring numbers in. Per episode, there have been cases where some people make twice as much as others.

What is your total “wedding look” budget/est. spend? (Everything including dress, make up, jewelry, shoes, outfit changes, accessories, etc.). I have put so much emphasis on my looks (no regrets) and I actually just tallied up my spend and my head almost exploded. Frankly just seeking a little validation that I am not the only crazy person out there 🙃

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

How much did you spend on your wedding? Do you regret it? Also please share the location of your wedding if possible. Thank you!

Typical prices for wedding photography in a high cost of living city? (San Francisco) 2 photographers, 8 hours, no travel. Much appreciated! ❤️

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

How much did everyone spend on their wedding planner? We’re planning a Fall wedding in Europe with ~80 people and want a full service planner, have been quoted 9-15K and want to see if this is reasonable! TIA

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

Tux budget NYC?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

Does anyone feel guilty about spending so much money on their wedding day?

On one hand I know it will be such a special day with all our family and friends. On top of that I feel like we hired incredibly talented people that will make the day awesome.
On the other hand, I feel like the costs keep adding up and while the our day is not putting us in debt I can’t help but feel a little guilt….

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

Should I invite fewer people to a destination wedding or will people just naturally decline?

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good premarital counselor in NYC or NJ?

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.