So im recently single after moving out of my ex's apartment back in March and have been on a few dating apps. Im 34 and this 40 year old guy messaged me. He has 2 kids (they both have 2 different moms). 1 is 10 and the other is 21. What are your thoughts on that? He seems like a nice person so far.

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Wouldn’t be what I’m searching for (32F), even if he’s a nice guy, I think I’d struggle having a 21 y/o in the picture. But every family and relationship is different! Maybe if you and him are clicking rly well, it could work for you. Being recently single, do you feel ready to get into something new already? And what are your concerns about him/the situation that might’ve prompted the post?

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There are other green flags as well.

After dating someone with a kid, I wouldn’t do it again as a person without kids. Investing in building that relationship with the kid alongside the romantic relationship and then losing it all at once and knowing you’ll never see the kid again is brutal. More referring to the 10 yo than the 21 yo kid

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Was he married to these two women, or are they baby mamas? I hope that both of you will be using birth control.

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No he wasn't married to them. We wont be having sex at all unless we're married

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Whoever you date, just be clear on the responsibilities on who takes out the trash

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What are your thoughts?

I like him so far. We are currently texting..he hasn't made any pervy comments about my breasts or anything. I think I would be more worried or concerned if he had 2 smaller kids. At keast he said his 21 year old is gwtting ready to move out.

Do you want kids? If so, is the 40 year old on that same page? If I am in his place I am not sure I would want more.

It’s easy to say you love being a father and want another child at age 40 if you have never done the hard work 24/7

Are you ready to move on if yes am ready to move on too and where else you think we can chat or talk better from ?

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