Struggling with a friendship that has become toxic & fills me with anxiety. various factors have caused us to drift but it feels like nothing I say or do now is right. The issues seem to really come to a head for one when she is drunk, using it to air grievances with me. When sober she doesn’t feel like talking about it. It feels like we are pretending to be best friends because of history but the substance isn’t there and I just want out of it. Can anyone offer advice?

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

I want to give a Christmas gift to the manager of the gym I go to. She’s awesome and I just really appreciate her. I can’t think of any ideas though! Can anybody think any good ones? I do not know much about her personal life except that she’s a single mother.

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

I spent an hour today sitting with one of my patients getting a chemo infusion. Lonely and weird time to not have his wife in there with him

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

People who have cheated in their previous relationships, how did you come to realize the reason behind your behavior? A close friend confided in me that she has cheated in all her previous relationships and struggles to understand the reasoning behind it. She feels a lot of shame and is trying to understand why she does what she does.I have suggested therapy but she is not ready yet. How did you folks arrive at the root cause behind your behavior? Advice? Book suggestions that I can pass along?

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

Would you rather lick 👅 a porcupine or go back to your ex?

It’s a man’s market these days. Men, what tips do you have to give to ladies to increase our likelihood of entering a successful relationship.

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

Teaching Autistic Support via Zoom is so difficult. The behaviors are way worse and there is next to nothing I can do to help my students parents.

Creative folks with kids (especially young ones): how do you avoid feeling as though you're failing everyone? Pls include whether you're a man or woman.

SIL and BIL told us excitedly last weekend that she was pregnant (had literally just found out, so barely four weeks). This week she tells us she’s not pregnant anymore :(. They did not seem super torn up about it and were very practical about it. We said how sorry we were, etc etc. should I do anything else? Should I not mention it again unless they do?

Pregnant with our first and my husband was wondering - any resource recs for soon to be first rind dads? Either talking about pregnancy, baby, or both?

How to meet new friends in a new city?

How many couples here where the husband/male SO is younger than the wife/female SO? And what if the age difference.
To start..I'm 34 and wife is 36.

As a black guy attracted to Indian women, what are my chances of marriage if the girls parents are conservative?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Bored for the night M (25) in NYC. Typically described as tall, dark, handsome, and had too much caffeine/etc tn so wide awake and willing to entertain ppl until I get tired. Hmu w DMs/comments/IGs/etc if ur in a similar mental space 😂

Anyone in an in-house media or creative agency comms role in NYC, that could give me an idea of salary at director level? Above associate level. I’m London based looking to move.

Anyone hiring a an Account Coordinator in NYC for consumer/lifestyle?

Once you hit your FI number, what are your plans? 1 yr? 3-5yrs? beyond?

Hi.. I am happy to join here. Seems to be an amazing platform.

Looking for People Advisor , TFA , HR Consultant roles

Total 4 years xperience ( 2 years as PMO and 2 years into End to End recruitment

Fiancé’s milestone birthday coming up. We both love experiences and enjoy the city. Welcome all the help to make it special for her!

Any idea about greenway health?

Anybody worried about the market?

Water filters HSA eligible?

Has anybody been engagement ring shopping in the last 6 months? Any recommendations on places that are taking (CDC-recommended) COVID precautions?

Anyone know why uber prices have been climbing recently? I used to be able to get most places around the city for $10-12. Now I’m seeing $20-30 for the same routes. Is this basic supply/demand, or something else?

Hi everyone,
I was doing a brief overview of GMAT math, and I feel like I need to start studying math from ground 0. Can anyone provide and advice from personal experience, or from that of a friend? My goal is to get into a t-20 MBA program. Thank you in advance! Happy holidays

Any benefits if we complete wings 1 assessment..?

How do you make time for reading in your schedule? Is it something you do in the early morning? On breaks? Before sleep? I can never seem to fit it in

Finally a bowl of like-minded people! I love reading but finding it’s so hard to find people to discuss what I read.

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

I want to do an MBA in the next 2 years. I’m currently up for Senior consultant promotion but I don’t think I can make good money in consulting till I become Partner. My boyfriend isn’t supportive of this decision. He believes it will alter our plans (marriage, children etc). He also thinks immigration will be a big hassle since I’ve already used my 3 years of OPT. What should I do?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

How many dates do you give someone if you don’t feel a “spark” in the first 1-2 dates but genuinely enjoy their company (I.e. talking and learning about them etc)?

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

Hi all,

What do you think is a bare minimum CTC required to sustain a good married life considering life in a metro city. I do earn about 15LPA. So how much should. I look for in a guy?

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

Dear Men - Need your perspective.

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

Anyone have any similar experience or insight? My boyfriend asked for space/not really together anymore and he says he started to become nervous about being in a long term committed relationship. Even tho he said he saw me as long term & I’m his best friend and he loves me but why then? Does space help you guys figure it out? (Help / advice please😞)

If someone recommended you reach out to a mutual friend to get to know them for a relationship, do you ever mention that to the person?

Anyone else’s love life so DRY that you find yourself having a crush on an older man at work who is in senior leadership? I keep it professional, but I feel like I’m doing something so bad by having this crush.

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

How to stop feeling insecure that boyfriend will meet someone else when he goes out/goes to music festivals? He has never given me a reason to doubt him but I can’t shake this feeling of insecurity every time this happens

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

Am I crazy or do women take pride in saying “my boyfriend/husband makes twice as much as me” or similar statements

I dated my ex for about 4 years and before we broke up we had moved in together. We lived together for about 6 months before breaking up. I kept the apartment and she moved out. Is this something I should tell my current girlfriend without it coming up naturally? She has told me she doesn’t care about what happened in my past relationships and that she is happy to talk about them but that we don’t need to. I’m just not sure if I should tell her about it, or wait for it to come up in conversation

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?