So one of my fiancé’s good friends is renting from us. He’s one of the nicest persons we know and very responsible. However, he’s stopped paying rent and utilities for months now with over 10k due. I know we are running a business but it’s frustrating when it’s a friend and he will be in our wedding as well. We have obviously talked to him about it but any ideas what we can do to get him pay rent without ruining the friendship?

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you should really consider if you went to be friends with someone who’s willing to take advantage of you in this way.

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Yes if I was him, I would feel very bad about paying nothing towards my place I live

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He is ruining the friendship, not you. Is there a reason he isn't paying?

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Yeah, he is using you

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He’s not a good friend if he’s doing that. Start the eviction process.

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Also from my own experience, I rented to friends who wouldn't pay. No joke, I stealthily stalked them until they went to an ATM and I approached them while they were there to get some of the $

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That's the way!

Evict him from the house and your life (including the wedding). It’s not worth keeping someone like that in your circle. They need to learn a hard lesson.

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Thanks everyone for your two cents, I really appreciate it. After a few talks with my fiancé, he made sure his friend was going to pay us as we have a lot of wedding expenses to pay for. He finally paid in full (over $12k), yay!

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Wow he could have paid you, he was just choosing not to. What an asshole.

Turn off the water and electric, by ‘mistake’

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Definitely illegal and would give a tenant every legal reason to legally withhold rent or legally break the lease without penalty.

Have you tried being honest with him that you are not happy? $10k is not a small amount and I think you should give him a real date by which he needs to pay (that is a couple months from now as he’s a friend) and if he misses the date then you need to take legal action.

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I see 3 options, 1 Give him the chance to move out, forgive the debt and stay friends; 2 tell him he can stay if he starts paying the rent and develop a payment plan on the past due balance, probably stay friends, 3 Start eviction process, remove him from your life, he’s a parasite.

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I have rental properties. I’d kick him out…

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Yes - make a fake reason saying someone from your family is moving in town and I offered them to rent your place. Or due to financial reasons, we need money can’t rent it free of cost.

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Or just because those weren't the terms agreed to in the lease! No need to make up stories IMO. "Bro, you agreed to pay rent for the privilege of living in this house. You're not paying rent, you have to pay up or leave in 30 days." The end.

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Any insight to why? Hard times or just an ass?

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He can also cash advance a credit card or take out a loan. You don’t get to stop paying rent and utilities but still buy a new car and go on vacations

Ditch the fiance. If she doesn't know how to handle an issue this simple, it's going to get worse with more serious issues

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Good for you.

The stereotype I referred to is a group of internet people who respond to one problem with “DIVORCE”, fully confident in their understanding of the entire relationship.

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This is why you don't do business with friends or family.

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Are you serious? Why are you letting a grown man live rent free in your house? No he’s not going to just pay if he sees there no consequences..what is wrong with y’all lol

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Id kick him out. I’m a landlord. Also never mix friends with business like that

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Sounds like he already ruined the friendship

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Evict him. He is not treating you like a friend by not holding up his end of the agreement. Don’t let people take advantage of you.

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Seems pretty obvious that he’ll continue until you do something about it. It’s hard to go through a life downgrade, which it sounds like he’s headed for. The only question is will it cost you 10k or 20k+. If he owes the IRS you won’t be first in line to get your money back. So essentially you’ve gifted him whatever is owed, or you’ll wait years to see a penny. In your situation I’d evict my own daughter if she broke an agreement with me.

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Don't rent to friends/family. You're running a business and need to be strict about evicting people.

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