Sometimes I have a near panic attack for fear that I am not being the best dad I can be. I am deathly afraid of letting my children down. I think I’m doing right and putting family first but still.

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The fact that you think this way means you’re on the right track. I think we all get a little worried about whether we are doing a good job, and I think it drives us to do better since our kids can’t give feedback. Do the best you can and love them unconditionally — you’ll do great.

My dad was a lousy dad and I am 100% certain that it never crossed his mind to wonder if he was any good. He just didn’t care

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For those of us who a) had a shitty upbringing and b) have over-achieved as a result, should give you some piece of mind. Don’t stress yourself - 95% of dads are shitty dads IMO so the fact you even think about it is a big deal - but don’t stress - the example you set by earning for your family goes a long way in your kid’s development...

Lets put it in perspective - was your dad the best dad in the world to you?

Thank you for all of the responses. I fear the age old trap of becoming my father. He was a consultant and while not a terrible father he just wasn’t present. Even when he was physically there he wasn’t present. I think that I have learned a lot of lessons from him. I don’t travel much, I work from home a lot, and when I am here I try to be present. But some times are worse than others. Currently I am working very long hours and traveling through the end of Aug. It’s temporary but it makes me question whether I am making the right choice. As with all things I know I will fail. I just pray that my children will know, deep down in their souls, that I love them more any anything else in this world. I hope they understand that when I do inevitably fail them that I was trying my best.

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