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Don’t be. Her poor judgement lead her into making those decisions and ending up in her situation.
Spend more time with a group of girlfriends! There are other relationships than romantic ones.
Nope, that's just her story. I haven't watched it and only heard about it. I'm not single and can assure you that relationships take work. If anything, her story should make you happy that you are single and confident that waiting is better than being tricked lied to used or abused. Believe me, there is peace contentment and joy in being single, too. There is so much you can do single that you cannot see when you are comparing yourself to others in relationships. Abd vice versa. Be content in your season and live life as if you never would have a mate. You'll be much happier. I guess us introverts love solitude too much.
She admitted herself she was desperate. She ignored red flags all because she didn’t want to be alone. Take heed but don’t feel hopeless.
I’m too much of a detective to fall for such. First thing I do when I get talking to a guy is find his LinkedIn and Instagram and sus out our mutuals. Build the picture from there. Has never failed me.
Don’t go looking for excuses to feel hopeless! Her journey doesn’t have to be yours.
This is the most Atlanta shit ever
Don’t be! There are good men out there. & as a married woman, I can say confidently that a lot of what she experienced could’ve been avoided early on. They rushed into living with each other, rushed into being boyfriend and gf, rushed into having a child, rushed into trying to purchase a home together. All of this within a 2 month span of knowing someone is just wild. She did mention multiple times that she ignored the red flags & there were so many that were on full display very early on. I think if anything, this should really encourage women to take their time in the dating process, see them through all seasons, trust your gut, and heal internally 1st so you’re able to see red flags & walk away when you do. There are some crazy men out there but there also are some really honest and dependable men! Don’t let this hinder your hope and desire for that! ♥️
I don’t personally believe that most men just shift from so sweet and nice to crazy over a long period of time. A lot of those traits (even if they’re small) are most times there in the beginning. The small lies, the subtle controlling behavior, the lack of transparency etc. there’s so much about a person’s character that is displayed with time. & even for Reesa’s sake, it took this man less than 30 days for red flags to appear. The problem was not that they were never there and he just changed all of a sudden down the line, the problem was that she overlooked them. I think there’s def a message to learn from her story. But I’m hoping you find a very great man! I believe it’s possible for anyone! I’ve got to witness so many beautiful black love stories including my own, so I know it’s a possibility.
Don’t be hopeless. There are many great men out there. Don’t let hopelessness cloud your judgement like hers did.
I agree with most of the people responding. Reesa stated the purpose of her sharing her story was for women to learn from her mistakes and be more vigilant. Don't let it scare you into thinking the few bad apples are what men as a whole represent. Wishing you all the best on your journey to finding your partner 😊!
That’s just HER story. Yes, there are men like that out there, it’s just on us to be more diligent about treating dating as a vetting process vs. a “highlight reel of dating me” experience.
- Get clear on what YOU want in a partner. Focus on how they make you feel vs what they look like. Yes you need to be attracted to them but do they make you feel seen? Safe? Appreciated? Valued? Etc. make that your vetting criteria. If you meet someone and they do really nice things but something feels off, trust that. Move slow-ER
- Take your time getting to know people.
- Meet their friends, family - These are their references.
- Watch how their people treat them - This is how I figured out my Legion was a Legion type.
- If it feels like they are rushing things - PUMP THE BREAKS! This is a red flag.
- Always run a background check by date #2 and let them know that you are doing it, and explain WHY. How they respond to you doing it, knowing why, will tell you a lot.
Don’t lose hope. Romantic love is a beautiful experience, that everyone deserves. Just make sure though when you date, you are soooo in love with yourself and your life that whoever shows up is competing with your peace of mind and not your fears/insecurities.
Great advice!
She let him move in after two weeks. He paid all of her bills and she didn’t even save her money. She didn’t fact check anything and admitted to being desperate and intentionally ignored the red flags.
Have more faith in yourself
I thought you meant the show on ID lol. Guess I’m the only murderino here 🤭
I watch that too lol. But she was safe. She didn’t get scammed or like hurt in anyway. Just cheated on which is bad. But not like super crazy. And he didn’t have another family on her or anything
Omg I was just discussing the with my friend,, it’s a shame
Craziness!
Don’t be hopeless. That is HER story and poor judgement. There is still good men out there. If I let my past with bad men stop me, I wouldn’t be engaged today.
Never heard of this. What platform?
Ok ok. I heard about this. I was following for a while; but it got to be too much.
I honestly need to tune in, this is all I keep hearing about lbvs.
Me too! Like, why even be bothered? You have to be a detective just to date someone. I don't have the energy. I would rather sit on my couch and watch reruns of Law & Order.