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Yes because those are science based compatibility studies - very to minute analysis. It’s easy to say it’s BS for
People who don’t understand the science behind .. I actually prefer being w one person if that person is good than building emotional baggage / memories w everyone I date and sleep. If you want to see actual love you need to age with someone ...
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DD1, this is a good example of how if you don’t present yourself well, it doesn’t matter what you’re saying. You’re coming off a bit... unhinged.
Also “Leo and Pisces don’t get along” is EXACTLY the kind of thing astrology believers say.
Chief
I just love the matchmaker’s reaction to their criteria haha.
Indians: very smart in technology and maths, trust horoscope when it comes to marriage
S1- I believe you mean honor killing!!
Yes
Chief
I'd never heard the phrase "fair skin" repeated so many times. I was surprised the matchmakers were so open about that.
The show portrayed India as rather backwards: women are second class citizens, regardless of their personal successes, and men are babied into their early 30s.
What the west finds hard reconciling is the fact that colourism in India emerged after British colonialism.
OP, all true. We will get defensive but that doesn’t alter facts
Haven’t watched the show but India is a big country to be generalising about. You would always be completely correct and completely wrong at the same time.
Agreed. You should think of the South Asian peninsula as Europe rather than US.
There is rampant ethnocentrism, racism and right-wing nationalistic fervour across Europe. No one says stop generalizing when we say that.
And yet so many Indians post on this bowl about the racism problems in the United States....
DS1 which america do you live in ? Sound very out of touch. FYI : India gave its minorities more rights earlier(from independence in 1947) than America (1965) and this is a country had a history of institutional divisiveness propagated by a small foreign ruling class and even smaller indian one.
From a western perspective, I see why it is confusing. Trust me, most younger indian people feel the same but there is some solace in “hey i have a backup plan if this dating bs doesnt work out”
Everyone has a preference for what you are looking in a partner and when you date organically you seek it out. Seema is basically a really good friend who can set you up on a 100 dates for a certain fee with a high success rate. I would say her setup is actually quite liberal(in the indian context) since both parties are encouraged to date and meet each other multiple times and have the right to say no.
In india, family is a very big part of life so having a similar upbringing is very helpful and leads to a happier long term equilibrium. Would you rather have a marriage where you are constantly having to chose between your partner and your parents/family or one where you know they get along.
As far as horoscope, take the good with the bad. Most of the astrologers give some practical advise “Stop being picky”, “Learn to compromise”.
P1 - lets not get into the diversity of chad the white bachelor from the midwest who played quarterback in high school and now works in LA/NYC as a veterinarian. He likes to work out and has and loves listening to country music and playing with his golden retriever. Religion has a deep meaning to him but he doesn’t practice and is dating 4 southern girls who were cheerleaders in college. He’s not racist but all the girls he picks are white. They couldn’t have made 20 seasons of this if there wasn’t a modicum of truth.
I don't want to believe it's true, but I love it.
I’m not sure what is ridiculous about it...these folks are 35+ and trying to get married and simply share their preferences with a matchmaker. The mother thing was only one dude who had an over controlling mom. Arranged marriages are only taboo by name but in reality it’s not much different than tinder or bumble. It’s true, back in the days (my parents time) arranged marriages were different and you really only knew the person for a month before marrying them but those fables you hear about meeting your spouse on the wedding day really only happened back in the early 1900s or before. I can’t comment on that really given I was born in the late 1900s but again it was just a cultural thing. I think other cultures have more “ridiculous” nuances if you want to go there.
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Well I know what I’m watching tonight! Is it in English or Hindi and non-Hindi speakers use subtitles??
Chief
It's in hindi/english
EDIT: I apologize for putting “ridiculous” in my OP. I wrote without thinking and I think that is insensitive. Unfortunately, fishbowl does not allow edits. I apologize if anyone was offended by my chosen word