Thoughts on asking guys if they are top or bottom on dating apps before the first date ?

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If that is important to you, then ask it.

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I think it’s fine. Sexual compatibility matters.

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If you are strictly one or the other then it’s better to get that out of the way ahead of the date. Or you’ll both be disappointed.

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Even if your vers it’s important too! I’ve met guys who say they are also vers and want me to be full time top or bottom and for real vers guys that lack of variety is not gonna work.

Depends on the vibe to some degree but usually it’s fine. Difference between hinge and Grindr obviously lol, but even on clean apps I’d say this is fine

Okay to ask as long as it’s after several questions in. I.e. not the opener.

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