Traveling dads - how do you handle things when baby is still very young and you are traveling. Wife says she can’t take care of the baby on her own, I can understand it’s not easy, and I love my job..

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Get her a night nurse. Amazing what a few nights can do for sleep and mom training especially if she is a new mom

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One more for the night nurse.


Also, you need to be 100% on your game and taking charge of things during the weekend. You don’t get a break then, your spouse does. More importantly, while it may be exhausting, you will treasure every moment you get with your little one. Approach is as if you get to hog all the time with your kid while you are home.

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1. Take a LOA or extended paternity leave
2. Ask for local projects
3. Hire a live in nanny
4. Have parents move in with you while you travel
5. Quit

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Night nurse is key. Just spend the $ for it. If you need help long term then go with a nanny or au pair

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Echoing what’s already been said but hire a nanny and you as the husband have to take charge when you are home. I have two under three and I take them with me to run all my errands on the weekends. Gives wife time to do whatever and gives me time with them and they honestly love it. My oldest was super sad when I went to Costco without him one time

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Echoing this...I also do as much housework as possible when I’m home (laundry, dishes, cooking, etc.). It’s a juggling act for sure but do as much as you can especially when they are under a year.

Cont... hard to make a switch now, been doing this for 13 years now. Day care is not an option because baby is very small and needs lot of care... I am lost, any suggestions, wondering how others manage to be successful in consulting and still take care of parenting responsibilities.

I had my parents and in laws to help us out during the initial years. Reach out to family if you can to support you . Won’t be easy if they are still working, but that worked for me. Switched support between both families .

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I only work on local projects

Hang in there! Not easy!

Thanks for the tips everyone, I will look into night nurse options, but need to see if I can afford.
Local projects are ideal but in consulting it’s hard to keep waiting to land a local project.

Also consider virtual internal projects. We have a ton of them in human capital. Should be some in other areas

Nanny! We had the same issues and we couldn’t have made a better decision. We do 30 hours for Mon-Wed and 5 hour Thu (wife got wfh on that day) and 5 hour on Fri (I am at home on Fridays). Saturday and Sunday, I help out as much as I can. But once we have 2 babies, we will move to au pair arrangement. It’s just not right for the kid to not get care while we chase our goals. So, spend the money where it will matter.

Also, I try to do traveling projects (3-4 months) followed by 6 week internal projects.

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We got 4 kids!!!! 🤐🏃🏿‍♂️🏃🏿‍♂️🏃🏿‍♂️🏃🏿‍♂️

I’m in your boat SA1, we just had #5. Like you, my wife is on top of everything, couldn’t do this job without her

Nanny up. At the very least outsource every single chore. Cleaner, lawn mower, etc.

Your home time should be for your family.

We have a nanny, but she is only around when my wife works.

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