How difficult is it to be a single parent? (Soon to be one)

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It's tough but not impossible. The money has to be worth it to justify the travel. You need money to outsource as much of your household stuff as possible. You need 2 back ups for childcare.
I thought the struggles were worth the freedom from a horrible marriage.

And how r u enjoying ur freedom thus far? R u remarried? Did u have trouble dating bc u were a single parent? So many Qs...

I feel it's easy. I don't need people's approval on my parenting. Also i have great bonding with my child who is now 8, she is very independent. She can take care of dishes, vacuum, clean up, laundry. She is fond of lego, of her 20 sets, not even a single piece is missing. Treat your child as equal, trust me they will surprise you.

Are you the mom or the dad? Will you be primary parent? How many kids? I think there are a lot of variables.
I divorced when my kids were 4 and 7. I moved closer to my mother and my best friend.
Also, so much depends on the reliability and quality of care you can find. I had good years and bad years (and I'm sure my kids would say the same) that were largely dependent on how happy they were while I traveled.

My kids are grown and despite a few hiccups normal to teenage years they are doing great.

I share half parenting life with my ex and I feel it it easier than before since I only have the kid half of the time. I get time to do things I like when the kid is with dad.

No. I want my kid to be able to spend time with both parents. Half parenting time*

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