Was passed over for a promotion and a friend said ‘well, everything happens for a reason’. Do you believe everything happens for a reason, or are you smart?

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100% believe. I got passed up for a job promotion which ultimately led me down a path where two years later I’m now in a job I could only have dreamt of at the time.

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@ey1 the same nightmare that led you guys to “unlimited pto”. Good luck working 360 days a year

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The saying you might not agree with, but the mindset behind it is crucially important.

It’s about not letting yourself get down over failures, and continuing forward with resilience and a positive mindset.

Next time, try not judging the friend that’s providing emotional support as you go through a struggle.

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This is high iq thinking

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The universe is mostly pointless and arbitrary, and saying everything happens for a reason is how dumb or religious people make themselves feel better about adversity.

That said, there’s often a lesson in an unpleasant event and you’d be a fool not to turn that lesson to later advantage if the opportunity arises.

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Everything does happen for a reason, causality is intertwined in past present and future. We are beings that are stuck in one point of view in one moment in time, if you were able to see all different points of views and points in time, you will find that everything that has and will happen, happens for a reason. Nothing to do with religion...

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I mean, most effects do have a cause...

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Of course everything happens for a reason. There are a lot of bad reasons though.

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Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is that you suck, and some times the reason is that other people suck.

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No, I don’t. Shit happens. But you can *create* meaning out of circumstances for yourself.

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I am a believer in this. If I didn’t get laid off from my prior job, I wouldn’t have entered consulting. And my earnings have been an upward trajectory since.

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I sometimes wish I had the faith required to actually believe that everything bad happened for some good/positive reason.

But I’m totally unable to look at the world and buy that and have a hard time taking seriously those who do believe this. There isn’t a good reason that I was born in a time and place and with the skills to be wildly successful in my career when I could have just as easily been born to a different family in a different place & time and died of starvation as a toddler.

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Ahh yes of course, including terminal illnesses for young children who haven't had a chance at life yet.

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S&...wtf...

I believe in this 100%. Found out my ex of 10 years was cheating. We broke up for good after a year of him lying about the cheating. A few months before the final breakup, I put my energy into studying for the GMAT to distract myself from crying every day. Broke 700 which prompted me to apply to a full time program instead of an EMBA. Got into my top M7 choice a few months later. Met my future husband and father of my child two months after that. Increase my salary by 2,5x right out of school.
NONE of this would have happened without that breakup. I should THANK my ex! The universe is a strange place..

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Offer rescinded during 2008 crisis from a top tech firm, which led me into a path to a much better job which I could have only dreamt about. Everything happens for a reason.

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Maybe this rejection motivates you to find a job outside with much higher raise than the promotion.
How you take it defines where you go next!

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I think it’s probably more accurate to say “things generally work out”.

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Not a strong believer but opportunities will come.

Was turned down by McK implementation (I didn’t agree with the reason but not my call) and 3 months later ended up getting BCG and Bain generalist position which is not only a better role but also my fav firms within MBB. Gotta thank my terrible interviewer for this.

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Yes. Suffered a bad breakup, took a trip half way across the world to meet a friend, on a whim. Without the breakup the trip would be impossible.
1 year after that trip, I had permanently moved half way across the world from my home and currently living the life id always wanted to. The breakup was the absolute worst. Didn’t think I’d survive it, but it set me off on a way better life path than if the relationship had worked out.
Everything does happen for a reason.

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Everything DOES happen for a reason. Not always a good reason, or the reason you wanted, but everything has causality.

Maybe the reason is that you make bad decisions.

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I think it’s foolish to look for reason in everything that happens in life. Things simply happen, and life is just a series of choices that you make and learning to live with it. Like now, you have the choice to stick it out and try for promotion again, or put up two middle fingers to them and jump ship. Whichever way you choose, you just learn to accept and live with that choice

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Reminds me of The Ozark.

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Ah yes, lots of “this bad thing happened to me once and then it was actually good, so therefore I can extrapolate this anecdote to all life events! 🙌”

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