What are some things you do to make meeting someone from a dating app for the first time less awkward? I dread the initial meeting so much that sometimes I just end up canceling.

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Dating is inherently awkward. Just roll with it. Worst that happens is the date doesn’t go well and you never see the person again. So it felt awkward for an hour or two? No one will ever know other than that one person who you’ll never have to talk to or see ever again.

In the meantime, please stop cancelling on people. If you’re not ready to actually keep plans with people then stop using the dating apps. As someone who has been cancelled on and stood up multiple times, it gets very demoralizing and is disappointing when you’ve made time in your schedule for someone and they can’t be respectful enough to keep the plans.

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I never make concrete plans tbh. It’s more like “let’s shoot for this day and if anything changes, we can adjust as needed.” And then if I’m not feeling it, I’ll go ahead and cancel that morning. Sorry if you don’t like it, but I don’t owe anyone on an app anything. Never know if I’m actually going to feel like meeting up until the day of, so I don’t commit to anything too far in advance.

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If you're a chronic canceller perhaps app dating isn't for you.

As for me, of course new conversation topics will pop up on the first date but it's generally building off the conversation (messaging) to date and going from there. "How was your niece's birthday?" "Did the big work meeting go well yesterday?" "What did you think of the latest <insert show here> episode?" etc.

At the end of the day, if you click you click and if you don't you don't.

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Stop acting and be yourself don't pretend to be something you're not be real and they can be real back if they're not real with you it's on them if you're sincere about what you're going out for before be truthful say what you want to say be who you are and if you don't know who you are you shouldn't be getting in a relationship

Have a few conversations starters in your brain to get the conversation flowing. While you should ask some questions to get to know the person, and vice versa, it shouldn't be an interview. Look up some crazy "this or that" questions online, or talk about current events in your city (sports team, tv episode that people are talking about, etc)

Surprised no one’s said this yet but - connecting over video / phone / text for a convo or two before meeting creates continuity when you meet and reduces awkwardness

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