What are your thoughts on someone trying to build wealth off of their grandparent because their own parents were incapable and both grandparents had to step in financial and were forced to pickup the slack. Currently grandma does not like when her grandchild asks for money despite the grandchild has a degree, own apartment, no car note and great savings. The grandchild wants to leave her apt to live rent free with her grandma and buy multi unit home and go to med school. Is this normal?

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If I was the grandma, I would tell the grandchild to pound sand.

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I told her that she should be inspired by her grandma. That her grandmother was able to have the things that she has without asking for handouts. Instead of riding her grandma’s coattails and she sounds like a user. Also doesn’t help that grandma has dementia. And grandma has made it clear she no longer needs to help her because her grandchild has a great job and she did all that she can do for her.

It could be a mutually beneficial agreement if grandchild provides some service to grandma? Will she do all the shopping, cooking, and cleaning? Or just be a mooch?

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Ahh you are a daughter to said grandma…might not be as extreme as my family but we might’ve had a similar issue with my grandma having dementia and certain member of the family taking advantage and extracting a lot of money as time went, which wasnt known until my grandma passed. Document everything if you believe your mom is being taken advantage or being forced and you arent okay with it (let go of small family things that just arent worth the trouble). But it has been years and my family is still lighting money on fire by the tens of thousands over an issue like this potentially.

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