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Do you have any idea about internal transfer process? I have joined Adidas recently and looking for internal transfer to Amsterdam office.
FYI.. I have one more counter offer for UAE and they are ready to give me 75L INR.
+if I get the transfer, how much I can expect for M4 profile?
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8 years sober today! I love AA.
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Also when I controlled my drinking, I didn't enjoy it. And when I enjoyed my drinking, I couldn't control it.
There is no line. Or at least it is fluid, individual and cannot be defined as x drinks x days a week. An alcoholic is powerless when faced with a drink. For me, once I started, there was no stopping. I lost nearly everything, and hit bottom almost 4 years ago. That’s not to say that one cannot recognize a problem preemptively and correct course to avoid mass destruction. If you are asking, there is at least something there. Maybe pop by and join us for a meeting. We will welcome you with open arms and you will leave with information you didn’t previously have. Honestly, realizing what I was, getting a strong program and moving forward sober has been the best thing for my relationships, my career, my health and my life. Up to you if you want what we have. 😎
What makes an alcoholic is their insanity. The peculiar mental obsession, the continued drinking despite repeated negative consequences, and quite simply, the inability to stop once you've started. If you're someone who truly has three drinks a day and dislikes that, you might have an alcohol use disorder at worst and poor coping skills at best. But for people like me, who truly need AA? If I have one, I'm gonna have 20. Or more. Until I get my fill. That's just the way it is. If you can successfully stop yourself from over-drinking, you might not be one of us. That said, if you want to quit, my people welcome all kinds :)
I just joined this bowl, and I’ll be damned, these are really resonating. Man..
@ad1 thanks for the honesty. For me, while i was able to visibly hold it together anyone close to me knew otherwise. Two red flags for me was 1) when i started to want to drink at 2pm, or if i worked from home i thought about a glass of wine while i wrote strategy. The other red flag 2) was if we were out somewhere, my glass couldnt be empty. I was the first to finish and the first to be annoyed at the waitress....where was she??? I could no longer stay in the conversation bc i was obsessing over the next drink. It shows up differently for everyone but the feeling is the same. I believed that i was the biggest piece of shit that the world revolved around. Everything was about me. Selfish and self seeking. Check out aa.org or look at some of the criteria you can find online... Drinking alone and in secrecy, Alcohol cravings, Feelings of guilt associated with drinking etc. Good luck and you can always check out a meeting and stick around here.
The normal drinkers I know don't count their drinks. They just stop when their bodies tell them too. My mom, my husband, my best friend, they all do that hand over the glass thing at parties and restaurants. I've never done that in my life They may tie one on once in a while, like a company party or a wedding, but it's super occasional. Also, I kept getting drunk when I didn't plan or want to. I'd hold it together and control my drinks for a while, then WHAM I'm drunk.
I've been asked this many times, "I drink every day, but only a couple, do you think I'm an alcoholic?" The answer for me was pointed out simply. I was going to meetings because of a bad couple nights but I was debating if I had a problem and wrote why I am not an alcoholic. I spent two days writing, and a great friend asked what I was writing.. He laughed at me and said, "how many non-alcoholics spend two days writing about it? " I lost it got a sponsor that night. Sober over 15 years now.
This is a bowl of mirrors. I find myself nodding and knowing with all replies.
Most alcoholics can’t stop at 3 drinks, but it depends on your mental state. After the third drink is it a daily struggle to deny yourself more, or do you just not want anymore? Do you chug 3 drinks right after work then spend the rest of the night convincing yourself not to have another, or do you have 3 beers spread out between 6pm and 11pm? Big differences. Anyway, as other have said, you can go check out an AA meeting and see if anything resonates. It literally won’t cost you anything.
One person asked me, if you knew you weren't an alcoholic what would you do? I responded with, I go get drunk to celebrate. Non alcoholics that I've asked, often don't understand the question.
Some people can casually drink and use drugs like beasts. The question is, how many times have you searched for the right combination of substances that would work without wrecking your life situation? How many times have you ended up wasted without meaning to? How many times have you tried to quit or reduce your substance intake unsuccessfully? Have you ever quit drinking for two months then been like, awesome “not a drunk,” then ended up blacked right out celebrating? Heavy drinkers don’t suffer from that. They just like to party.
In other words if shitty things are happening there is a problem. If all is candy land and good stuff with no impact - carryon. (But your liver may die ...and you’ll get older quicker...)
I went to AA once, I stopped drinking when I saw myself on Video what a hot mess I’ve become. Anyway AA explained it like this: you can have a drink once that year and if in that time you lose control, or something happens, (anything negative) then you are an alcoholic. It’s not how often you drink it’s how alcohol effects your life. (Missing work, fighting with friends, acting differently, losing stuff, losing control...) - made sense. I mean we are celebrating a substance that literally puts layers of your brain to sleep- can’t be good. I’d always wonder the night before a huge pitch why we would all drink...