When A (a guy in 50s with lots of experience & connections) reach out to B (young woman starting career) to offer career help, is it normal for A to say “You own me a coffee 😉”? The emoji surprised me

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You don’t owe him anything and he is an asshole for writing that. He reached out to you, not the other way. Forget the emoji, be gracious and buy him a Starbucks gift card.
Case closed.

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There's a pretty good chance he's just a nice guy that is happy to help you out in your career. Bring him a this. Thank him again for his help. Move on.

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Don't bring him a this. Do bring him a coffee.

And if he grabs your ass when you leave his office, you should definitely report him.

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It's just coffee, people. Unless coffee and mentoring means something else nowadays. 😶

Ya’ll are a paranoid bunch! I’ll offer alternative motivation, that’s non-creepy for the paranoid women that think everyone is out to get them. I’m not in my 50’s but I do try to help women in tech as an older man. I get so tired of working with only men. I typically have better conversations with women. The occasional brave woman that enters the field should be encouraged. So I help where I can. That includes women in their 20’s. I was just fighting with my VP arguing for a promotion for an outstanding female, knowing damn well she was a lesbian. Makes perfect sense to me, but continue on with your paranoid delusions.

MDA1 that was actually the topic of my last workshop - careers in IT. I actually had them looked up job postings on the Internet to see salaries (hoping to appeal to the future capitalist pigs 🐷 🤣)

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