When folks send you slightly impolite slack messages, how do you respond?

E.g. when someone says “Do this.” or “I want this.” instead of “Can you do this,” or “I’d appreciate it if you could…”

I know their intent isn’t bad, but I also want to set our working relationship’s tone. This person is more senior to me, but I voluntarily help them and don’t report to them.

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Why do you volunteer?

You aren't going to be able to dictate a better tone. This person is who he is. Either get something out of the work you do, making the poor tone worthwhile, and make your peace with it,

or don't do it.

Or just blow off steam here!

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I get recognition in building something new out - but I see your point

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Idk, I’d be extra polite with the person. Try to set the tone showing that their messages are too harsh in the context

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Okay well then just put up with it lol. Trust me, slightly abrupt requests on slack is hardly the worst thing you'll experience in your professional life.

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