Why are some Christians concerned about finding a mate when we should be focused on making sure we truly understand Gods word and put it into action? Not trying to bash finding your mate just trying to figure out why that is always the priority?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Go forth and multiply. Direct command that showed up pretty early.

It's also the strongest physical urge He gave us aside from hunger / thirst; by design. The challenge present in trying to respond to that urge while staying consistent with God's teachings is extremely difficult, and that's why a lot of Christians put a ton of weight on it.

like

Yikes my earlier post didn’t edit:) I had much more to add to my last one, but it deleted. But essentially the era has changed. Gods word has not… this is definitely a deeper conversation than a text reply. If anyone is interested maybe we can take some time to have a bible study and read through it more. If I am incorrect then I’d rather be sharpened with iron from a fellow believer.

This looks like a generalized statement, not all Christians ONLY concern is about finding a mate, but I will try to answer the question on why some are concerned. It’s because they have understood the word of God in Genesis 2:18- “…it is not good for a man to be alone…”

like

That makes sense I can understand not wanting to be alone. It can definitely get lonely.

like

I don’t think that’s solely a Christian thing; nearly all humans view that as a priority bc we were wired for community and we were wired to have a “helper”. If that becomes someone’s priority in life, it’s usually because we’re following what culture says and also because we’re fearful of being alone forever. Take for example - When we were all children, our “priority” was to get to the next stage of schooling, especially college. I don’t know any high schooler who made understanding God’s Word a priority over picking the right college; it’s a product of the culture we live in, we’re always trying to get to the next stage in life that culture has dictated.
As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to glorify God. Whether that’s through marriage or work or whatever stage of life we’re in, we make the most of the present time to fulfill that purpose, and we can’t truly understand how to glorify God without meditating on His Word daily for guidance & wisdom and talking to Him constantly.
It’s also okay to desire that stage (marriage or something else) and to pray about being ready for it before you even found a spouse; and to also pray your with fiancé on becoming ready together.

likehelpful

1) not everyone is in the same stage or maturity level in faith, so yes, a person should be rooted in God’s Word before making big decisions, especially one around choosing a life partner.
2) be rooted so that you’re making even “small” decisions first in the light of His commands and teachings. Everything we do matters for eternity. I can tell you work for Accenture -meaning you currently have a job and currently work in consulting and most likely currently work at Accenture. Those are 3 different decisions you had to make because you live in this current world on earth, which is a product of how you cannot avoid certain responsibilities you have on this earth. I would like to assume that you meditated on God’s Word first and prayed about it consistently before you made any of those decisions to get a job, get a consulting job, pick a job at Accenture (aside from all the other intermediary steps - did you pray and seek guidance over your resume, every interview, every commute, every outfit you wore for your interview, the city you chose to work in as your primary location, etc.) and determine how it gives glory to God.
3) from those posts - I don’t think anyone’s main priority was to find a spouse. That’s an assumption you’re making. I don’t see you making that same statement for people seeking a new job. What you’re reading is people with a desire, and specifically for a desire for good things that the Lord designed himself. And sometimes it’s just people venting and grieving too because they have a desire they’ve been waiting on, there is nothing wrong with that. Sarah in the Bible prayed and grieved because she desired a child. We see many times people come to Jesus weeping because their loved ones are dying or in pain (Lazarus, Jairus’ daughter, etc.) and Jesus still met their needs. He asks for faith first, yes, but this doesn’t mean he will not meet your needs. We are human, we have human needs; whether it’s food or shelter or friendship or a vocation or whatever. God will meet your needs (and maybe it’s not in the form you expected), whether through delivering on that promise or providing a new one, but it first requires understanding what His promises are, which are written in the Bible itself. And of course, it requires discernment - is this a healthy desire I have? Am I in the right situation to pursue this desire? Will I be able to recognize when I’m being tempted or led astray? Etc. And that all comes from being rooted first and continuously in His Word, we don’t stop meditating on God’s Word and we don’t stop praying and asking for guidance.

like

Because it’s a natural urge and desire that God planted within us. Because being fruitful and multiplying requires people to find mates with whom they can reproduce.

Not sure what religion even has to do with it. You’re asking why people feel compelled to follow one of the most basic biological urges of the human species. Why someone would *not* want to find a mate seems like a bigger question.

like

But thanks so much for your thoughts everyone. I wasn’t trying to steer up the bowl but perhaps my question was more of a trigger. Its best not to argue/debate these types of things I know we all have an opinion. Be blessed fam.

I understand what you’re saying because I myself have been thinking about this recently about myself and your point that many make that their priority and where their ultimate focus is which is not good.
I do think it’s possible to do both, God himself said “it is not good for the man to be alone” and this was when man was closest to God, in his presence and in communion and even then God felt it was important to have someone

Related Posts

Thoughts on AWS AI ML scholarship program?
Has anyone done it?

like

Is there any reason why I shouldn’t use my company’s work laptop and resources for my freelance work if it costs my company $0 extra? Just want to make sure I’m not breaking any rules....

Has anyone joined and left CGI in a month? If anyone can share their experiences?
CGI

Any advice for someone who wants to go into the health advertising industry but has a degree in Biology and Public Health/Sociology/Psychology? I graduated in 2020, and my dream is to become a creative director someday. Where should I start? My only experiences in the professional world have been working briefly as a writer and as a dental assistant.

like

Johnson & Johnson Does anyone have any insight into the work culture at Johnson & Johnson in the legal department? Also, how would companies look at an an associate moving from a law firm trying to negotiate on pay to account for the bonus they would have got at the firm? Thanks!

like

Currently a Recruiting Coordinator at a tech start up and looking to explore other companies! If there are any recruiters hiring for a RC position please let me know, I’d love to connect!

like

Pharma Advertising Regulatory Manager vs Pharma Brand Manager?

like

Any recommendations for a nice lounge with live music in the river north area? Would like to go after dinner tomorrow. Thank you.

like

How is Atos for Oracle Cloud Financials? Do they have enough projects?
How much ctc can I ask for with 8.3 yrs of experience?

How is everyone faring after snowmaggedon? We had 5 broken pipes. Insurance adjuster is coming tomorrow. Would appreciate any helpful tips.

like
like

There are so many great questions in this bowl but little were answered. If someone can graciously go over them it would be great, thank you!

like

Happy Wednesday!!!!

I’m currently a Recruitment Consultant at an RPO with 4.5 YOE in Toronto. I received a salary raise last year. Recently I had another conversation with my manager for a comp raise. They was able to speak with their higher ups. Unfortunately, I got to know that they wouldn’t be able to increase my pay because of the economy. I’ve been working on heavy req loads and multi projects. But they are signing me up for a leadership program with a potential raise next year. Thoughts?

Recruiters: When checking references, if a reference is honest that a no-fault lay-off is why you left the last agency, is that a deal breaker?

like

Is Morgan Stanley consider a top company to b school admins?

like

I'd be in for a pub gathering for sure

like

I’m currently working with a senior level HR candidate. This individual has a doctorate in business with a focus in HR, her SPHR, Federal, and private sector experience at the singer level, and has a fabulous personality. I’m curious is anyone else having difficulties play some candidates like this? At this point I’m starting to think it’s racial or her sex based of the lack of interest in this candidate. Any thoughts?

like

Hi All. I have 2.5 yrs of exp in azure tech(adf,synapse,lake,sql and dedicated pool)
Along with 6 yrs of strong power center exp. i want to learn data bricks but have no knowledge of python. Can i make use of sql and be a good data bricks resource or python ll be more helpful. Also please suggest me how can i learn adb and python.

Does anyone have recommendations for classes or trainings that helped you gain greater expertise in reviewing and negotiating commercial contracts, particularly sophisticated SaaS agreements? I came in-house with a biglaw litigation background and because of this feel lacking in competency compared to friends who came in house with transactional experience. Ditto to corporate governance. Would love some recommendations so that I can brush up in these areas and feel less like an imposter.

like

I am a first-year at a small firm doing litigation looking to move into a corporate practice group at a big law firm within the next year or two. What should I be doing now to make that possible?

like

Additional Posts in Christian consultants

This Easter I can't help but be thankful for all He has done for us and how great the world around us is because of His love

like

I’ve been in a funk for quite some time, since maybe early Summer. I used to read the Bible and pray a lot in the AM, but barely read and lucky if I remember to pray during the day...

likeuplifting

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers in our families! Let’s pray for them uplift them and recognize their amazing love today and everyday!

like

Fellow fish of faith, at times as consultants we have to operate in grey areas, "spinning" or "messaging" which are most times lies. How does everyone deal with that? Or is it just people I work with?

like

God is coming again the rapture is upon us repent now!!!

like

Grace and Peace to you all! Lately I’ve been thinking of some creative ways to share Christ with my colleagues. Any suggestions?

like

Can I humbly request my fellow Christian Fish to turn on Networking in this bowl? Would love to connect with fellow Christians in the firm if possible 😁

like

Excited! We have our first prayer meeting at the office scheduled! I’ve been trolling the office looking for fellow Christians, and there’s about a dozen!! Pretty awesome when you actually look

likeuplifting

Dating question for the F 🐠. First dates seem like they go well and then this is the kind of response I usually get. Any advice? Should I just give up on the apps?

Post Photo

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, & lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, & He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5‭-‬6‭
I pray God guide each of us this week!

like

Anyone here at EY? Is there a Christian Teams channel/CoE or anything like that ?

like

Just found this group! Any other good working class Christian groups on fishbowl?

like

Hi everyone! I am planning a convention for my church and I want to get customized gifts for the attendees. If you know anyone who does customized things (mugs, notebooks, etc), can you share their instagram/facebook page here?

like

Looking for a verse to praise Jesus during a big decision point in my career 🙏

like

What are your thoughts on how faith should affect your work?

like

Does it ever make you wonder why we have so many man made sects/denominations of christianity?

They are all denominations of sects that started with a man/woman disagreeing with an original church (e.g whether it be Catholic or Orthodox).

I mean we have Jehovahs witness, baptist, Anabaptist, Evangelical, independent, pentecostal, lutheran and the list goes on and on and on.

Its either God says only one is right and the rest were teaching false religions or we all go to heaven.

Thoughts?

Happy Sunday Everyone!

like

Someone recently asked me if I would have still chosen to be Christian if I hadn’t been born into a Christian family. Like, if I was born in Pakistan to a Muslim family and found out about Christianity later in life, would I have known it was the right path? It’s been shaking my faith, even though I don’t want it to…

like

What are some things you are struggling with as a Christian?

like

Need some encouragement: 1. my husband just resigned from his job as it was beginning to give him mental health challenges and even put him in counseling. I am now the only income producing person. 2.I haven’t been tithing in a couple years (mainly bc I moved to seattle and haven’t found a church home…Covid didn’t help). 2. Leaving amazon for a better paying job that God blessed me with, at a great time. I don’t have the margin to tithe but know I need to. If you’ve been in this sitch, advice?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal