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It's also the strongest physical urge He gave us aside from hunger / thirst; by design. The challenge present in trying to respond to that urge while staying consistent with God's teachings is extremely difficult, and that's why a lot of Christians put a ton of weight on it.
Yikes my earlier post didn’t edit:) I had much more to add to my last one, but it deleted. But essentially the era has changed. Gods word has not… this is definitely a deeper conversation than a text reply. If anyone is interested maybe we can take some time to have a bible study and read through it more. If I am incorrect then I’d rather be sharpened with iron from a fellow believer.
This looks like a generalized statement, not all Christians ONLY concern is about finding a mate, but I will try to answer the question on why some are concerned. It’s because they have understood the word of God in Genesis 2:18- “…it is not good for a man to be alone…”
That makes sense I can understand not wanting to be alone. It can definitely get lonely.
I don’t think that’s solely a Christian thing; nearly all humans view that as a priority bc we were wired for community and we were wired to have a “helper”. If that becomes someone’s priority in life, it’s usually because we’re following what culture says and also because we’re fearful of being alone forever. Take for example - When we were all children, our “priority” was to get to the next stage of schooling, especially college. I don’t know any high schooler who made understanding God’s Word a priority over picking the right college; it’s a product of the culture we live in, we’re always trying to get to the next stage in life that culture has dictated.
As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to glorify God. Whether that’s through marriage or work or whatever stage of life we’re in, we make the most of the present time to fulfill that purpose, and we can’t truly understand how to glorify God without meditating on His Word daily for guidance & wisdom and talking to Him constantly.
It’s also okay to desire that stage (marriage or something else) and to pray about being ready for it before you even found a spouse; and to also pray your with fiancé on becoming ready together.
1) not everyone is in the same stage or maturity level in faith, so yes, a person should be rooted in God’s Word before making big decisions, especially one around choosing a life partner.
2) be rooted so that you’re making even “small” decisions first in the light of His commands and teachings. Everything we do matters for eternity. I can tell you work for Accenture -meaning you currently have a job and currently work in consulting and most likely currently work at Accenture. Those are 3 different decisions you had to make because you live in this current world on earth, which is a product of how you cannot avoid certain responsibilities you have on this earth. I would like to assume that you meditated on God’s Word first and prayed about it consistently before you made any of those decisions to get a job, get a consulting job, pick a job at Accenture (aside from all the other intermediary steps - did you pray and seek guidance over your resume, every interview, every commute, every outfit you wore for your interview, the city you chose to work in as your primary location, etc.) and determine how it gives glory to God.
3) from those posts - I don’t think anyone’s main priority was to find a spouse. That’s an assumption you’re making. I don’t see you making that same statement for people seeking a new job. What you’re reading is people with a desire, and specifically for a desire for good things that the Lord designed himself. And sometimes it’s just people venting and grieving too because they have a desire they’ve been waiting on, there is nothing wrong with that. Sarah in the Bible prayed and grieved because she desired a child. We see many times people come to Jesus weeping because their loved ones are dying or in pain (Lazarus, Jairus’ daughter, etc.) and Jesus still met their needs. He asks for faith first, yes, but this doesn’t mean he will not meet your needs. We are human, we have human needs; whether it’s food or shelter or friendship or a vocation or whatever. God will meet your needs (and maybe it’s not in the form you expected), whether through delivering on that promise or providing a new one, but it first requires understanding what His promises are, which are written in the Bible itself. And of course, it requires discernment - is this a healthy desire I have? Am I in the right situation to pursue this desire? Will I be able to recognize when I’m being tempted or led astray? Etc. And that all comes from being rooted first and continuously in His Word, we don’t stop meditating on God’s Word and we don’t stop praying and asking for guidance.
https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Search-What-about-Marry/dp/1434704890
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Because it’s a natural urge and desire that God planted within us. Because being fruitful and multiplying requires people to find mates with whom they can reproduce.
Not sure what religion even has to do with it. You’re asking why people feel compelled to follow one of the most basic biological urges of the human species. Why someone would *not* want to find a mate seems like a bigger question.
But thanks so much for your thoughts everyone. I wasn’t trying to steer up the bowl but perhaps my question was more of a trigger. Its best not to argue/debate these types of things I know we all have an opinion. Be blessed fam.
I understand what you’re saying because I myself have been thinking about this recently about myself and your point that many make that their priority and where their ultimate focus is which is not good.
I do think it’s possible to do both, God himself said “it is not good for the man to be alone” and this was when man was closest to God, in his presence and in communion and even then God felt it was important to have someone