I’ve learned recently about some traumatic events that family members of mine have gone through but I had no idea had occurred. Besides my parents divorcing I really have not experienced that many hardships or trauma in my life. Sometimes it makes me worry if I’m due for something bad to happen, if the other shoe was going to drop at some point. I know hardships are a part of life and I feel like I have had far less than normal

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I also felt that way growing up. The shoe will always drop because, at the very least, everyone dies. The best gift you can give yourself is appreciating what you have in the moment, now, and going out of your way to have more of those moments. You can't regret it later because you did try and you did appreciate it then.

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I have worked through this in therapy. I don’t even have a parental divorce that happened. I feel guilty for having lived without tragedy and definitely sometimes feel like something horrible will happen to me. But the truth is, there isn’t a set amount of pain everyone has to experience in their life. Some people are lucky and others aren’t.

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Yes! I didn’t get a succinct solution through therapy that I can share, but I’ve learned how to stop my thoughts from spiraling when I start to go down the rabbit hole of worry. It helped so much!
A few tips I do remember—just like there may be something awful looming in your future, there is just as high of likelihood that something wonderful is looming too! Second, we will all face some tragedy eventually (older family members always eventually die). Worrying about it now is like pre-mourning and steals your joy. Why would you want to spend your time now that you have with people mourning their death?

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Thoughtful, humble introspection…. Impressive (especially on this platform) and a good foundation for when tragedy does strike.

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Even in baseball, a batter is never really “due” for a hit. Just not how probability works.

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I came from a lot of trauma, used to resent people who didn’t go through hardship, and always wondered how will people survive if they had something tragic happen to them- because I know I could bear it, but I can’t say the same for people who aren’t as broken.
But from what I’ve seen and learned. People are really resilient, even if say for instance the other shoe drops, you will initially struggle, but you will also eventually be able to adapt and get through it. Even if you didn’t come from hardship, there must have been times in your life where you were put in a challenging situation. Use that experience to navigate through hardship should it occur, but don’t let the paranoia of something that may never happen prevent you from enjoying life and happiness.
If it’s the anxiety, you could always seek therapy

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A big thank you to everyone who chimed in with their perspective and experience!

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You are blessed!!!

Still blessed!

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There’s no other shoe waiting to drop. Most people do not experience true trauma in their life (i.e., experiencing life-threatening harm, or watching it be inflicted upon a loved one). Divorce, the normal non-violent death of a loved one, etc, are more normal parts of life and not going to cause PTSD. Everyone will experience some form of loss and heartbreak; that’s life. I would not expect to experience anything worse.

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