Your associate who was late getting you that motion may not be lazy, they may be depressed. Be part of the solution not the problem.

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Associate can also communicate that draft is coming late so people can plan and triage. Can’t be part of the solution alone.

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OP, in the kindest way, I think you need to seek some help if you don’t already. I see a therapist and it’s been really helpful. Employers can provide accommodations to their employees and be understanding to a certain extent, but when it’s reoccurring, you will ultimately lose your job. And again, if you need a job that’s less stressful on you, you are full free to seek it out. There is no shame in going to a job that fits your needs better. For some people it means more money, for others it means less stress.

Hopefully that associate is in therapy and on proper meds, cause life’s too damn short to needlessly suffer

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Maybe said insurance is not taken at many therapist and psychiatrist and with how overloaded the mental health system is you may not be able to find one available.

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An associate can communicate it will be late so others can help. Sometimes we have to give people a chance to be helpful and considerate by giving them options.

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Maybe they are worried about how you may respond? Anxiety and depression come hand in hand. It isn’t purposeful but this is where if you are supportive of your junior associates and senior associates they have the predicate establish for such a relationship

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"In case you're depressed, I'm giving you an extra week. Don't be late."

OP, you are the only one responsible for prioritizing your mental health. Ask your GP for psychs and therapists that take your insurance. If you really can't find someone in your plan, call your plan administrator or insurance company.

If you need to, you can pay out of pocket. Your GP may even be able to RX basic SSRIs/SNRIs.

I know it's overwhelming, but no one will do this for you. The first step is always the hardest. Take care of yourself.

Just going based off your responses in this thread. Good luck to you.

OP, I'm really sorry. The responses to this post just show exactly why law is utterly failing those coming up in the profession (and plenty of people who have been in it for a long time). "Buck up and muscle it", "solve the problem behind closed doors but don't let it impact your work", or "leave the profession" as solutions just show that the law would rather push anyone with depression (not to mention shorter-term issues like burnout, health issues, or family troubles such as a sick relative) straight out of the field rather than offering meaningful support or an understanding work-life balance. A lot of you other posters just ran straight into the point and kept going.

It’s dark.

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