25 Male 🐠 here. Am I being too “transactional” when I expect my SO to be career oriented? I’m always driven by something and would like to have someone like that in my life.

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Well the thing is it's your SO's choice and acceptance is the key. You cannot force anyone for anything. So for example if you meet someone who is a decent match for you but is not so career oriented but is passionate towards something else in life, what's the harm?

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