AITA Ive been waking up early every morning for past year to take care of both our kids (3 and 1) and let my wife sleep in an extra hour or so. It’s a lot of working managing both kids with feedings and getting ready. My wife recently said she wants to use the mornings to work out while I take care of both kids. I got annoyed and said if she’s up early then she should help with the kids too and I was adamant about it. Am I the A-hole?

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Possibly the asshole. Does she have time later in the day to workout? Do you? If you are taking care of the kids already, you should be happy she wants to start getting up earlier, be healthier and maybe give you some pre-baby hot mom bod.

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YTA. Think about the reason why you wake up early is it really to let your wife sleep? It sounds like you do this because you’re giving her the time and space to do something for herself at the beginning of the day. If she wants to use that time to exercise, then that is totally fine. Sleep energizes her. It sounds like exercising also energizes her. Taking the first hour of parenting shouldn’t come with the condition of “you have to sleep”. The way you’re describing that makes it sound like something that you feel is a chore. It can be taxing, yes but taking care of your children without your spouse isn’t something that you should be pounding your chest on. You both are a team. I would look at it as a blessing. You have an hour uninterrupted with two of your young children. Use it as an opportunity to bond with them and share special moments with them they/you may otherwise not ever get again

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Does your wife work? Does she take them in the evening so you have an hour to yourself? How do you handle weekends?

Try to avoid the tit for tat stuff which is totally natural at this stage - ask for something you want, don’t argue about who does more.

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I wouldn’t phrase it as alone time - say you need to hit the gym yourself - that you’ve been feeling slow and need to recharge. That since she mentioned it you realized what a great idea it was and how it makes you both feel more energetic. Etc.

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