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Been there OP, sending you good vibes and strength! Just want to say two things 1) a lot of times we imagine the worst of ourselves, we are our own worst critics. So maybe things will go better than what you are imagining. Easier said than done, but try not to form an opinion beforehand 2) if there really were mistakes that happened, the best thing you could do for yourself (forget the review cycle) is to figure out what you learnt from these mistakes. How will you do this better next time? It will help you deal with it better for yourself as well as during your review cycle
OP- good job on taking the initiative to speak with him! Honestly speaking, sometimes we need to hear that criticize also, as that will motivate you on how you can further develop yourself. On one of my client projects, our team was presenting the results and the Partner was speaking and she hesitantly said something, and I spoke up to give her the confirmation as I had done the detailed level work. My manager notated this on my review saying I need to work on listening skills as he viewed it as I had cut the Partner off; although that was not my intention and I did not view it that way. Either way, I became more mindful of it and now am much better of a listener. Take it as a positive. Not all days are same! This is where having a good counselor comes to play. Be transparent. Good luck!
Thank you guys, I spoke to the teammate and his feedback was framed in the light of how incompetent I am versus how I could personally develop, it’s just how his personality is. I guess we all go through this at some point in our careers
Set some time and have a one on one with the teammate first. What are the reasons you are anticipating an awful review? Also set up some one on one time with your counselor as well. Dont take it to heart, stay positive and think how can you make it better
Manager 1 - that sounds ridic. Reminder that you can have good intentions but still go to hell.
Perception is reality. Know that you can't force people to perceive things in a certain way, but you can become more self-aware. It's how you react to that which makes the difference. Once you realize that nobody is perfect, including you, you can live with it a little bit better.
Btw @Manager 1: good for you adjusting yourself based on feedback. That's how you survive in these places. And what @EY1 said: it's ridiculous such things happen sometimes, but once you stop taking it personally and decide how to react then you'll feel a lot better.
EY1- exactly! but cant let those things get to you, this was when I was fresh in consulting- learned a lot about the different personalities and the political culture in corporate.
BA1- you nailed it! i strongly feel sometimes, when managers need to do PE, they try hard to look for something as a weakness.
This is my point to OP, dont let it get to you. You live and you learn. If you are transparent and your counselor, close network see how you are, one or two other peoples opinion cant change that; unless you really are not doing the work and know you are at fault
Be careful not to become a self fulfilling prophecy. What you think is what you become. If you think you will have an awful review you will. Think about all the good and positive