Any advice for how to keep an over eager toddler still learning how to be gentle from manhandling a newborn?

She is very loving (thankfully) just doesn’t understand she’s not actually helping. I don’t want to just keep repeating “Just look! No, don’t touch his face!” 🫠

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Went through this exact same thing. Toddler is the most loving brother, wants to hug and kiss and play with the baby. But you turn your back and he’ll be smacking her in the head or yanking her leg. It’s inevitable at that age. Just keep positively reinforcing gentle touches and remove toddler or baby from the situation when it gets hairy. And as hard as it is, try not to give a big reaction. That will only invite more hits because kids love getting a rise out of yin. I will say it’s gotten better as they’ve both gotten older. It’s a phase that will pass like anything else. Hang in there!

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Thanks for the encouragement! So far not hitting but just a lot of poking/inspecting and jostling. I’m so looking forward to when they can run and wrestle together 🥹🥰

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If I had a dollar for every time we’ve said “gentle hands!” I’d be a millionaire. What did help a bit was teaching our toddler to practice those gentle hands on other things like the dog, his toys, even his food so it registered a bit more I think? It translated over eventually but oooof he has been known to lovingly slap a baby.

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That’s a good idea about practicing gentle hands on other things. I’m sure there will be a few good slaps here and there over the years… we’ll just try to minimize as much as possible.

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We remind my toddler with the word “gentle” and he seems to understand. He’s also very eager to be a good helper so I ask him to do tasks like bring over a diaper or “read” the baby a book. And I make a big deal out of praising him when he does these things. When we go out of the house and he gets jealous that I’m carrying the baby, I ask if he wants to carry the diaper bag backpack and he loves putting it on.

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Perhaps her own baby doll to focus on. Just a thought

Lol I’ve tried that. Not as fun or interesting as baby brother.

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