Any millennials here worried about their parents retirement? My parents are set financially but I’m worried about their lack of hobbies and social life. They watch a lot of news, politics, stock market, and sports. However not much more than that. I feel I’d be fine with that if they were in their 80s or older but they’re early 60s. Anyone succeed in getting their parents to an activity filled retirement?

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When the day comes that I can retire - after busting my ass for almost 50 years and raising a family, all I want to do is sit and watch tv, read and maybe some travel or basically I have earned my right to do what I want when I want. If my kids tried to get me to do something I would tell them to go away.

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Do understand that they may resist every effort you make towards trying to get them moving. My Dad wanted to relax in his retirement. I lost a friendship over my inability to “get my Dad off his ass”. I suggested volunteering, I used to make lunch appointments with his friends (he wouldn’t go) I’d get supplies for little projects half-finished in the garage… He wanted to read, watch TV and go out to dinner on Fridays. That lasted for seven years. Sometimes you have to acknowledge that you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.

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Suggest volunteering, or a part-time job in a fun environment such as a museum or whatever they enjoy. My Dad was very engaged with his school alumni associations.

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That would be the dream. Unfort they just have no interests besides watching the news and sports. If they did the sports instead of watch them I would be fine with it lol

Encourage them to move to a 55+ community in a warm climate. They won’t be bored there.

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If you have kids they could always help babysitting lol… that's what my parents told me haha

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My dad was laid off of his blue collar job and I made sure he stayed laid off because I can cover him and my mom now. They have zero savings and rely on social security because they work menial jobs their whole life. To keep them engaged I made a grand child for them with my wife 😜😂

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The best activity may be a small business. It keeps people engaged and motivated.

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I agree but just don’t feel my parents have any motivation or ambition at this pt which is fine. They’ve worked a whole career but they don’t really even have hobbies or much of a social life. I just don’t want it to be them watching the tv all day

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My dad was laid off during the pandemic and haven’t had the motivation or perseverance to look for another job. Not sure if he thinks of retiring early but all he does is watch TV and be on his phone. I’m mostly worried about him not engaging his brain and body. Am moving away soon and I’d hate to visit and see him age years every time. :/

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Yes, you should worry. My parents passed away unfortunately, but this is what happened. My Dad was laid off at 50 after a 25-year long successful sales career. He had a lot of savings, invested properly, and consulted part-time. He was healthy till about 60, but he missed his old career. He passed away at 71 due to a combination of diabetes and other complications.

Work is ultimately about fulfillment. It’s not solely about money. Losing his career affected his health and life expectancy.

Make them go out into the world! They need to interact with live people, outside, doing something active. Keeping their bodies and brains engaged will help keep them healthier having friends will help them be happier.

Dad's dead. Mom's set with a big stock portfolio and 10 acres of land valued at about 1.5 mil. Both parents were abusive and they literally paid zero towards any tuition or other expenses after I started undergrad.

I don't worry about her. I don't talk to her. I don't expect anything from her at all. If I never thought about her again, I'd be completely fine with that.

I guess what I'm saying is, make sure you parents out there treat your kids in a way that leads them to think/care about you the way OP cares about their parents.

I’m so sorry to hear about your story. I hope things are better now

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