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Be a nice person, you were in that position once.
I think the best action here is just to be honest. Tell him/her that you prefer to chat on the phone. Or if you don’t respectfully decline. Nbd.
Opt for a 15-20 min phone call instead
Congrats on making it so far with no help you rock!
I hosted one of my laid off colleagues today on my WFH day for 3-4 hours while her kids did summer half day camps. Yes, it was a little cramp in my style, but also from last email she needed to have professional discourse. While I answered emails, she wrote a cover letter, we collaborated and she sent one more. I might have a high EQ, but I feel better about that than the 3 successful calls today
Too funny, all these people -- who likely entered this career primarily because of what it does for them personally and not for any altruistic motives -- acting so self-righteous and holier than thou. Give me a break.
OP, it's okay to feel annoyed. Especially at your level, you get pulled from every which way and have little ability to say no. Then you got these extra, nice-to-do things coming at you. Yeah, it can feel like too much, and you just wanna do your job and go home. You're not alone in feeling like that time to time.
Just live your best life. Do good work, help others as much as you can given your situation, take care of yourself, and don't come to a internet forum for validation on your life choices. These people don't know you and you don't know them. Most of them are posturing hypocrites and liars.
K1 you're a great example of the garbage KPMG hires.
Jesus. And you’re just an associate, what will you be like in 5 years.
Isn’t the easy answer to say “coffee might be difficult but let’s chat over phone...?” People on the other end mean no malice after all. I personally find it hard to be annoyed when I was in their shoes not too long ago, trying to find someone to throw me a bone.
Couldn’t agree more. Pay it forward. I’m a copywriter so I get a lot of requests for resume feedback which I’m happy to do. But I budget one hour per week and when I hit that ceiling I unfortunately have to say no
Coffe chats are dumb. Call on your way to from airport / home
OP is probably in Week 1 of onboarding
I feel attacked 😭
No. You better do it. “Send the elevator back down” as they say....
Let me clarify—I do help prospectives a lot. Done tons of phone calls in the last few years to majority of those who ask. But asking for face to face time seems pointless. I have maybe 18 hours of total downtime on weekends and don’t feel like sacrificing my personal time with spouse and family to answer generic questions like what’s a typical day like. Especially if it requires time to travel to and from the place
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If you have the time then give it, if you don’t then don’t. Perhaps see if a peer would be willing or able. Instead of coffee ask them if a short call would do or if they had specific questions that you can answer at a convenient time. This business is based on networking. I get at that level it may be hard to manage all that is thrown at you. See it that someone values your opinion or wants to learn from you? One day you will be looking to have a coffee or network, would you want them to be annoyed at you or would you like them to make the time? This works both ways. If you don’t have time to help someone out, it may be time to think about adjusting to some prioritization and time management skills, or setting boundaries because being so busy is never a good thing. Everyone is busy and yet the best people always make time for others. Perhaps taking the time for a cup of coffee will do you good to get a breather? If people don’t have time for a cup of coffee they are doing something wrong and will eventually burn out. You may find speaking with others to be quite meaningful to them and you. We have all been the recipient of someone who gave us their time.
Someone becomes an “associate” and are too good and too important to be a real human
Be nice to us vlookup folks. Some of us are just trying to scratch out a living.
You sound mean
You sound like a delight to work with...
I wouldn’t be here without the coffee chats. I still work on his projects 6 years into the firm
You’re only an associate how much influence do people think you have that they are reaching out to you. In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t cost anything to be nice and professional. There are ways to say no or figure out a mutually convenient time for both. You might find yourself in that situation, how would you feel if people had this attitude towards you.
Filter based on whether you think they have an honest shot or not
Just say “no"
Most of the time the people asking don’t care how they talk to you, just that they get to you. Suggest a phone call. I’m sure someone told them to ask you to go for coffee so they did. At the end of the day they probably prefer that anyways