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I'm definitely a person that's fixated on the details, sometimes to the point of obsessing and not being able to move along in decision making because things feel off. It's a huge problem that has always gotten in my way professionally. I think you have to really learn to pick your battles and have at least one trusted person who can help tell you when it's time to move on (whether that's a manager or coworker or whatever)
I can relate to that so much!
Finding the right balance between focusing on details and looking at the big picture can be very difficult. When I’m in a meeting where I’m not sure whether to speak up, I write down the point I’m thinking about (as I take detailed notes) and reflect for a bit on whether to raise it or not.
This happens to me often and when it does I ask myself is it a material fact that would impact a decision? If not, I’ve learned to let it go.
I was so nervous the first few times but now I can let it go without raising the issue. However because of my compulsive nature you better bet I have the details just in case the point is raised by someone else.
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I used to be this way. Not sure if it’s an ADHD trait, but a perfectionist streak. The first time I would review any doc or presentation I had an urge to fix the minor things, and sometimes overlook the bigger context.
Over time I learned to stop the nitpicking- or at least look past the details and focus on the meaning. It’s a good skill to want things to be perfect, but it can be a huge time sink. Details like this often don’t matter to the bottom line.
I am constantly told both. This post actually reminded me that I corrected a fact that a person senior to me quoted in a meeting and I’m now realizing that was probably a ding against me.
It’s really, REALLY hard to let this stuff sail on by, especially when it feels like it actually may impact the outcome of a project, but it sounds like you (and me) need to learn that sometimes it’s better, politically-speaking, to keep our mouths shut.
D1, i think i was nice enough about it but you’re right, and i honestly should just have kept my mouth shut and not even said anything.
I see it happen when working within areas where what is classified as “done” isn’t well defined. Does 80% mean done to them? Get to know the min-max of the guiding standards. Know that nothing will be 100%, because perfect takes too long.
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I get told the opposite lol. But ADHD manifests in different ways for different people!