Before everyone tells me it’s a bad idea,… I know. But I’m still curious. Anyone here ever ask out a coworker and live to tell the tale?

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Yeah. Got turned down. Felt awful for a few weeks but I got over it. Still glad I did it. Better than "what if?"

Couple of things to bear in mind. First off, your brain will trick you into having feelings for a person you might not otherwise consider if you see them every day.

And secondly, some people flirt with colleagues for attention, validation or just to pass the time. Just because a colleague is flirting heavily it doesn't mean they are interested.

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Hahaha TWIST: I am the newbie

We have two kids now. Don’t do it.

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If it’s happening naturally then you’ll know that it’s okay, but if you have to ask I feel like it’ll probably make them uncomfortable. My 2C.

~ Full disclosure I am getting engaged to my former coworker that I’ve been dating for 4 years.

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By and large… I think this is absolutely the move. Everyone here is making amazingly nuanced points. I don’t get to say this often, but GO COMMENT SECTION!

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Yeah and they said no. Then I sat at my desk everyday wishing I didn’t ask.

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Don’t feel bad for me though. I married a doctor. Highly recommend dating up.

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Married them and had a bunch of kids.

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Seventeen years ago I asked my wife out on a date when we were coworkers.

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Married 12 years and 2 kids

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My dad was my moms department head 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Yes. About 15 years ago.
It would’ve never happened if we were all remote. It happened over time. It builds.
You don’t “fall” in love. You GROW in love.

Married with two kids now.
Highly recommend you go for it.

👍

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The only way to meet people these days is through work. Apps are broken and nobody approaches people in public anymore. I say ask him or her out with some other friends, keep it friendly and see if it progresses into something more. If it doesn’t, you’ve established the friendship first.

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