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Dad of a 6yo boy here! My wife actually was thinking of #2 but when we talked it through, we realized that we were only thinking of another child because many of the couples we know have two.
Pros : he gets our full attention ( which he absolutely loves) , we can afford a really good private school, we travel with him everywhere, when I’m having a stressful time at work, my wife can easily handle the day-to-day
Cons: he’s always trying to engage us and needs to be entertained by one of us all day ( when the weather isn’t great outside); my wife worries sometimes worries if he’ll be alone when we pass
Overall , I have no regrets at all…
We also don’t have a lot of family support. So a second would’ve been very challenging

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