Do you feel like your job sometimes leaves you too drained of patience, kindness, and smiles so you end up super grumpy with your spouse? I feel like sometimes I'm too much of a burden at home but I'm just sooo mentally exhausted. Idk if that means I need to find a new career.

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Sure, I'll admit that I've done things like that. I've taken stress from work home and made my wife miserable. It's one of those things where you can be doing it and not even realize it, it's just happening. It sounds a little flaky to say it, but you really do have to develop some self-awareness and take a step back and look at what you're doing. Nobody wants to carry on like that, so once you realize you're doing it, you can probably find a better way to deal with the stress. Or at least leave it elsewhere.

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I can relate

Ahhh… yes. That is why wine and/or binge TV exists. 😀😀

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My work stress is on a predictable schedule. So is hers, thankfully.

We do a good job of riding the waves, so it's managed, but not perfect.

Talk about it, it can get better. Don't be afraid to say "Work has been really tough lately, and I've been struggling to not take it out on you. Sorry."

Anytime I have a huge push for a project, a fight with my spouse will inevitably happen soon after… and it’s always about THIS. Sometimes I feel like I force all my energy into pretending things are fine for my team that by the time I end my day and crawl back to my family, I’m spent. I hate feeling this way. But it’s also a vicious cycle. Cause I’m good at my job and I’m appreciated for what I bring to it. I just need to find a job that doesn’t demand SO much of me while still validating the fact that I am pretty dang good at what I do.

Lol this is actually what caused me to say I won’t give work 100% anymore. My goal is to cap at 80% unless work is just bananas. I used to be tapped of all creativity, humor, and fun. It definitely took time to adjust but I learned how to budget my energy so that my marriage doesn’t suffer.

Yes I feel the same.

Smoke a J, it really helps.

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